Sunday, November 9, 2008
Sunday, November 2, 2008
Judge By Outlook???
Different people will have different style to dress themselves up, which we call that different fashion. In fact, actually can we really judge someone's personality or behavior based on their outlook?? For me, definitely NO, but a lot of people will still always judge someone good or bad based on their outlook.
As an example, those who dye their hair with some shinning colour such as light blue, light purple or so on, those people will always have a statement in their mind that these are bad peoples. Same as those guys who have a ear hole, some people especially the older generation will also think that guys who wear ear rings is abnormal; therefore they are bad as well. Actually, why girls wear ear ring is normal but why guys wear is abnormal??
In my opinion, how a person dress up or make up is just about his or her interest and also sense of fashion. Yes, through the way someone make up, we can actually know that they are fashionable or not, but definitely not judging their personality. The only possible way to judge someone's personality or behavior can only be a deep communication which helps us to understand that person more. As a result, communication will always the best way to know someone rather than the outlook itself.
Posted By: KokChin
As an example, those who dye their hair with some shinning colour such as light blue, light purple or so on, those people will always have a statement in their mind that these are bad peoples. Same as those guys who have a ear hole, some people especially the older generation will also think that guys who wear ear rings is abnormal; therefore they are bad as well. Actually, why girls wear ear ring is normal but why guys wear is abnormal??
In my opinion, how a person dress up or make up is just about his or her interest and also sense of fashion. Yes, through the way someone make up, we can actually know that they are fashionable or not, but definitely not judging their personality. The only possible way to judge someone's personality or behavior can only be a deep communication which helps us to understand that person more. As a result, communication will always the best way to know someone rather than the outlook itself.
Posted By: KokChin
Wrong Prediction
We, human will always have our very own thinking, but can we guarantee that what we think will always be right?? I am sure that no one in the world could guarantee this. However, we will still have our very own prediction on certain subject or situation, and most of the time will assume that our prediction will be right even though there is no any solid evidence to support our prediction.
I used to have a friend, we were really close as we always share our private stuff together and our common way to communicate with each other through cell phone messages because we can't always meet each other. Sadly, things have change now. Our relationship clearly turn bad compare to last time. We are still friend but we didn't really share our things anymore, so the topic between us is getting lesser and lesser.
This happened actually because the wrong prediction between both of us. As I say last time we always send message to each other, now it turned to be less. The wrong prediction i mean is that both of us thought the opposition don't really want to continue SMS. For me, I have such prediction because sometimes the way my friend reply is slow and the message is much more short compare to last time. This continue to be my prediction until few days before one of my friend told me about our relationship. She told me that actually the closed friend of mine also have the same prediction which thought I not willing to continue our message. I felt so regret and silly to have such prediction before that that affect our relationship.
The main point I wanted to bring out here is that sometimes the wrong prediction we have in our mind can really bring out various type of negative effects. Why not we try to communicate more by expressing what we think out rather than predicting by ourselves?? For me, communicating is definitely better than predicting now.
Posted By: KokChin
I used to have a friend, we were really close as we always share our private stuff together and our common way to communicate with each other through cell phone messages because we can't always meet each other. Sadly, things have change now. Our relationship clearly turn bad compare to last time. We are still friend but we didn't really share our things anymore, so the topic between us is getting lesser and lesser.
This happened actually because the wrong prediction between both of us. As I say last time we always send message to each other, now it turned to be less. The wrong prediction i mean is that both of us thought the opposition don't really want to continue SMS. For me, I have such prediction because sometimes the way my friend reply is slow and the message is much more short compare to last time. This continue to be my prediction until few days before one of my friend told me about our relationship. She told me that actually the closed friend of mine also have the same prediction which thought I not willing to continue our message. I felt so regret and silly to have such prediction before that that affect our relationship.
The main point I wanted to bring out here is that sometimes the wrong prediction we have in our mind can really bring out various type of negative effects. Why not we try to communicate more by expressing what we think out rather than predicting by ourselves?? For me, communicating is definitely better than predicting now.
Posted By: KokChin
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
The Haunting of Molly Hartley....
The movie of the year....
The movie you'll never want to miss...
Hatred or jealous?
Do you?
Molly (Haley Bennett) is a 17 year old girl who has physically recovered from a stab wound inflicted by her mother, but the psychological scars that remain run deep. To help her begin a new life after her trauma, her father has moved her into a new school. With her eighteenth birthday approaching, Molly is haunted by nightmares of her mother's attack upon her while dealing with the stress of being the new girl in school. Symptoms of psychosis that seem to be affecting her seem to foreshadow an onset of the mental illness that took control of her mother's life, but of several different explanations for her distress, the most unforeseen and terrifying is revealed as the truth. Ultimately, Molly discovers that her mother and others who share her mother's concerns want her killed in order to save her from a preordained life as a servant of the Devil.
The movie you'll never want to miss...
Hatred or jealous?
Do you?
Molly (Haley Bennett) is a 17 year old girl who has physically recovered from a stab wound inflicted by her mother, but the psychological scars that remain run deep. To help her begin a new life after her trauma, her father has moved her into a new school. With her eighteenth birthday approaching, Molly is haunted by nightmares of her mother's attack upon her while dealing with the stress of being the new girl in school. Symptoms of psychosis that seem to be affecting her seem to foreshadow an onset of the mental illness that took control of her mother's life, but of several different explanations for her distress, the most unforeseen and terrifying is revealed as the truth. Ultimately, Molly discovers that her mother and others who share her mother's concerns want her killed in order to save her from a preordained life as a servant of the Devil.
Thursday, October 23, 2008
Who are we to you?
Malaysian Today...the newspaper I'll grab every single morning the moment I walk into lower foyer. "We RAPED Our Friend's Fiancee...Youth Crime On The Rise" That's what caught my attention. I agree with the writer...'When Youth go bad, Who's to blame?...If you can't care for your own kids, DONT HAVE ANY!' Seriously, what for you earn the world by letting go your own kids?!! Your kids don't JUST steal, JUST accidentally raped or even killed someone! A lots of crime were committed by youths nowadays; drugs addicted robbery, rape even murder.
We all know who to go to when the kids' in trouble: their parents. BUT, Where were they when their kids were stealing something from the neighbourhood? were raping innocence girls?! were bitten someone who did nothing to them?!! were...killing someone just for teh sick of fun?!!! Parents, can give the world to their kids but ...not LOVE. I always jealous to those kids who have family day at every sunday...I never had one. What so proud if you come from a rich family? Being alone in the BIG house with maids only...should that be what kids deserve? MONEY CAN't BE EVERYTING! I admired some of my friends who can tell everything to their parents...Apparently, I can't. I don't even know to start the conversation and my mum doesn't seems care about my daily life. Yea, it might sounds silly but seriously...and i believe a lot of youths faced the similar obstacles today.
Sometimes, all we need is just our parents being there for for us, support us...thats all...however, its seems too difficult for the adults...
" How your children turn out is how the parents rear or treat them when they are young..." Said by Dr. Toeh Hsien-Jin. We, can't not communicate. Why don't spent some time talk with your kids? Yea, earning money is important but...your kids is important too! Start caring for your kids, you can make a differents.
XOXO, Phoebe's here, your sources to understand 'human' around you.
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
"Where's your Gang?"
Its been a"a while" i didn't post anything due to the...my heart attack from mid-term. hahaha... anyway, hey people, its nice to come back from hospital!
I'm sure you do know what's a "gang" right? Me and my friends kinda have this 'culture' to call each other as in a gang. I had human com classes about group. So, the proper meaning for 'gang' should be group. Why did i use 'gang' but not group? Because it sounds cool when I said "hey, where my gang?" than "hey, where my group?".... hahahaha....nah! The reason why I call it gang its because this few people always hang out together. Let say, whenever you see me, you'll see the rest's with me. Of course, those always hang out together are normally buddies and they interact to each other more than to anyone else outside the circle. At the same time, they understand each other very well. So when it comes to grouping for assignments and reports, they'll stick as a group too. Because of knowing each other so well, they can simply finish the task faster than others group. Between that, they might have conflicts but its actually GOOD for a group to have that because it help you to improve your relationship and efficiency of your works. Conflicts are not always negative, it could be positive too.
Buddies don't ave to always TALK to show that you 'so love' your friends and you keep telling others that these gang of people are my buddies. **BLUR**...your friends know whether you're seriously like to be friends with them or you're just a faker. But how? Did you ever plan a secret birthday for your friends? Ever help them doing stuffs by not letting them to know? Comfort them when they're upset? Give advise ir even help them when they're in trouble? This is so-called the nonverbal communication. Your action, reaction and ect to what happen to our friend.
On the other hand, you and your buddies have your own hand-shake? Yea, thats one of the sign that shows you guys are buddies. Anotehr one is eye-contact. Have you ever send messages throught your eyes to your friends under a situation that you both can't speak? I had! And I'm glad we both understand each others' messages. However, the rest around us don't get it at all. I think, it needs efforts to... you know , get it.
XOXO, Phoebe's here, your sources to understand 'human' around you.
I'm sure you do know what's a "gang" right? Me and my friends kinda have this 'culture' to call each other as in a gang. I had human com classes about group. So, the proper meaning for 'gang' should be group. Why did i use 'gang' but not group? Because it sounds cool when I said "hey, where my gang?" than "hey, where my group?".... hahahaha....nah! The reason why I call it gang its because this few people always hang out together. Let say, whenever you see me, you'll see the rest's with me. Of course, those always hang out together are normally buddies and they interact to each other more than to anyone else outside the circle. At the same time, they understand each other very well. So when it comes to grouping for assignments and reports, they'll stick as a group too. Because of knowing each other so well, they can simply finish the task faster than others group. Between that, they might have conflicts but its actually GOOD for a group to have that because it help you to improve your relationship and efficiency of your works. Conflicts are not always negative, it could be positive too.
Buddies don't ave to always TALK to show that you 'so love' your friends and you keep telling others that these gang of people are my buddies. **BLUR**...your friends know whether you're seriously like to be friends with them or you're just a faker. But how? Did you ever plan a secret birthday for your friends? Ever help them doing stuffs by not letting them to know? Comfort them when they're upset? Give advise ir even help them when they're in trouble? This is so-called the nonverbal communication. Your action, reaction and ect to what happen to our friend.
On the other hand, you and your buddies have your own hand-shake? Yea, thats one of the sign that shows you guys are buddies. Anotehr one is eye-contact. Have you ever send messages throught your eyes to your friends under a situation that you both can't speak? I had! And I'm glad we both understand each others' messages. However, the rest around us don't get it at all. I think, it needs efforts to... you know , get it.
XOXO, Phoebe's here, your sources to understand 'human' around you.
leadership camp
i went to HELP's leadership camp over the weekend. it was really fun and i learned a lot of things. one of those things are communication related.
firstly, i was grouped with nine other people of which seven i didnt know. so we had to get to know each other fast as we had to work with each other for the next three days. im happy to say that i think my group worked pretty well with each other. we all listened to each other's opinions and gave our own, and communication between all of us was smooth. my group leader was very attentive to other member's needs, and made sure each of us had a chance to voice our opinions.
the first night there we had an activity called 'solo drop' where we were left in the jungle alone for some time. actually it's not really alone, everyone else is just a distance away but in the darkness, one cannot see. so anyway, before going into the jungle our camp facilitator briefed us one certain things. one of the issue he highlighted was the presence of natives because the jungle trail we were gonna go on borders the natives territory and they come out at night to hunt, so some of us might encounter them.
the facilitator thus told us that if that happens, they may smile at us. he asked us then what we should do. most of us answered smile back, because that was courtesy. but however, he told us never never to smile back because we don't know what a smile means to them. we may think it's courtesy, but they may think otherwise. so this experience taught me that what comes naturally to us, i.e smiling at those who smile at us may not apply to all territories and that we should becareful when threading unfamilar ground.
none of us came across natives though....
Post written by
Tham Sue Fern
firstly, i was grouped with nine other people of which seven i didnt know. so we had to get to know each other fast as we had to work with each other for the next three days. im happy to say that i think my group worked pretty well with each other. we all listened to each other's opinions and gave our own, and communication between all of us was smooth. my group leader was very attentive to other member's needs, and made sure each of us had a chance to voice our opinions.
the first night there we had an activity called 'solo drop' where we were left in the jungle alone for some time. actually it's not really alone, everyone else is just a distance away but in the darkness, one cannot see. so anyway, before going into the jungle our camp facilitator briefed us one certain things. one of the issue he highlighted was the presence of natives because the jungle trail we were gonna go on borders the natives territory and they come out at night to hunt, so some of us might encounter them.
the facilitator thus told us that if that happens, they may smile at us. he asked us then what we should do. most of us answered smile back, because that was courtesy. but however, he told us never never to smile back because we don't know what a smile means to them. we may think it's courtesy, but they may think otherwise. so this experience taught me that what comes naturally to us, i.e smiling at those who smile at us may not apply to all territories and that we should becareful when threading unfamilar ground.
none of us came across natives though....
Post written by
Tham Sue Fern
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
sending email or face-to-face talk better?
In today's well-connected world, hi-tech gadgets and gizmos can help us communicate more easily. Technology has made communication nearly instantaneous, incredibly convenient and enormously accessible. But has it somehow made us less effective communicators? Should we monitor our method of communication more carefully? Does it really affect our messages?
my answer is YES. this is because when it comes to resolving broken promises, violated expectations or bad behavior with someone at work, resorting to hi-tech methods like e-mail, voice mail or text messages can amplify our problems. Anytime non-verbal signals are important in deciphering the message, the news is particularly bad or sensitive, negative feedback is being delivered or differing opinions will ensue, face-to-face communication is a must.
For example, when letting someone go, you treat the bad news as bad news. You allow the other person to show their concern and emotions.
my answer is YES. this is because when it comes to resolving broken promises, violated expectations or bad behavior with someone at work, resorting to hi-tech methods like e-mail, voice mail or text messages can amplify our problems. Anytime non-verbal signals are important in deciphering the message, the news is particularly bad or sensitive, negative feedback is being delivered or differing opinions will ensue, face-to-face communication is a must.
For example, when letting someone go, you treat the bad news as bad news. You allow the other person to show their concern and emotions.
Sunday, October 19, 2008
A Little Effort May Be A Turning Point
Sometimes we just need to have a small step out, and it will really make a huge difference. However, there are always peoples that didn't do so, included me.
During my secondary school time, i actually have two really close friend. Unfortunately, with two really silly little conflict, we didn't talk to each other since the year end of form 3 until the beginning of this year. Actually in between, a lot of friend try to gather us together to recover our friendship, but no one willing to start the conversation, as what i mentioned which was only a small step out. In fact, this causes our friendship of more than two years. Although we are friends again now, the quality of our friendship is not as good as last time.
Both the conflict actually quite similar, which is both also related to competitions. One was a volleyball competition and the latter was a football competition. Both happen during the trip for the competition. Now, I will always think back of this two incident and ask myself why will i start this conflict and why don't I do little bit more after that and get our friendship recovered as soon as possible. I will always feel so regret that is causes two of my best friendship. As a result, now i will always try my very best to avoid any conflict with peoples.
This two incident actually shows us that sometimes, we will only need to do little bit more, and the effect will be totally different. For me, if one of us started a communication or conversation that time, the quality of our friendship will definitely much more better now. Therefore, put in effort while it is necessary to avoid any regrets in future, it could be a significant turning point.
Posted By: KokChin
During my secondary school time, i actually have two really close friend. Unfortunately, with two really silly little conflict, we didn't talk to each other since the year end of form 3 until the beginning of this year. Actually in between, a lot of friend try to gather us together to recover our friendship, but no one willing to start the conversation, as what i mentioned which was only a small step out. In fact, this causes our friendship of more than two years. Although we are friends again now, the quality of our friendship is not as good as last time.
Both the conflict actually quite similar, which is both also related to competitions. One was a volleyball competition and the latter was a football competition. Both happen during the trip for the competition. Now, I will always think back of this two incident and ask myself why will i start this conflict and why don't I do little bit more after that and get our friendship recovered as soon as possible. I will always feel so regret that is causes two of my best friendship. As a result, now i will always try my very best to avoid any conflict with peoples.
This two incident actually shows us that sometimes, we will only need to do little bit more, and the effect will be totally different. For me, if one of us started a communication or conversation that time, the quality of our friendship will definitely much more better now. Therefore, put in effort while it is necessary to avoid any regrets in future, it could be a significant turning point.
Posted By: KokChin
Sports Carnival
Today is our college's sports carnival day. I represented hmc to play in the volleyball. What a exhausted and interesting day!!! Basically, my team contains only 6 player, which is 3 male n female each, therefore we can't afford to have any substitution like other teams as we are just enough of players.
As my teammates and I didn't really play together before and few of them i even know them just today, so at first we start introduce ourselves first. Then later on we started to discus a bit on the strategy. Between we had deal that each one will have to shout out loudly " Let Go" whenever he or she intend to take ball so that no miscommunication will happen like two fighting for a ball. Try imagine if we don't have this strategy, how can we control the ball well? In fact, this strategy really work for us, as we manage to enter the semifinals. Due to the fact that we don't have any substitution, our energy started to run off, especially the girls. Therefore, during the semifinal match, which was the hottest time at 12 something, our performances were affected. Some miscommunication happened as some forgotten to shout for the ball and it caused us losing points. At first we were like standing inside the court for losing only, but it didn't lasted long, we started to cheer each other up. Finally, the gap were closer as we started to catch up. However we still lost, but we were really happy with our late performances.
This show us that communication can really make a point in a game. It could help us when to avoid miscommunication in between and also useful when we facing some negative situation.
Posted By: KokChin
As my teammates and I didn't really play together before and few of them i even know them just today, so at first we start introduce ourselves first. Then later on we started to discus a bit on the strategy. Between we had deal that each one will have to shout out loudly " Let Go" whenever he or she intend to take ball so that no miscommunication will happen like two fighting for a ball. Try imagine if we don't have this strategy, how can we control the ball well? In fact, this strategy really work for us, as we manage to enter the semifinals. Due to the fact that we don't have any substitution, our energy started to run off, especially the girls. Therefore, during the semifinal match, which was the hottest time at 12 something, our performances were affected. Some miscommunication happened as some forgotten to shout for the ball and it caused us losing points. At first we were like standing inside the court for losing only, but it didn't lasted long, we started to cheer each other up. Finally, the gap were closer as we started to catch up. However we still lost, but we were really happy with our late performances.
This show us that communication can really make a point in a game. It could help us when to avoid miscommunication in between and also useful when we facing some negative situation.
Posted By: KokChin
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