Who are we to you?

Malaysian Today...the newspaper I'll grab every single morning the moment I walk into lower foyer. "We RAPED Our Friend's Fiancee...Youth Crime On The Rise" That's what caught my attention. I agree with the writer...'When Youth go bad, Who's to blame?...If you can't care for your own kids, DONT HAVE ANY!' Seriously, what for you earn the world by letting go your own kids?!! Your kids don't JUST steal, JUST accidentally raped or even killed someone! A lots of crime were committed by youths nowadays; drugs addicted robbery, rape even murder.

We all know who to go to when the kids' in trouble: their parents. BUT, Where were they when their kids were stealing something from the neighbourhood? were raping innocence girls?! were bitten someone who did nothing to them?!! were...killing someone just for teh sick of fun?!!! Parents, can give the world to their kids but ...not LOVE. I always jealous to those kids who have family day at every sunday...I never had one. What so proud if you come from a rich family? Being alone in the BIG house with maids only...should that be what kids deserve? MONEY CAN't BE EVERYTING! I admired some of my friends who can tell everything to their parents...Apparently, I can't. I don't even know to start the conversation and my mum doesn't seems care about my daily life. Yea, it might sounds silly but seriously...and i believe a lot of youths faced the similar obstacles today.

Sometimes, all we need is just our parents being there for for us, support us...thats all...however, its seems too difficult for the adults...

" How your children turn out is how the parents rear or treat them when they are young..." Said by Dr. Toeh Hsien-Jin. We, can't not communicate. Why don't spent some time talk with your kids? Yea, earning money is important but...your kids is important too! Start caring for your kids, you can make a differents.

XOXO, Phoebe's here, your sources to understand 'human' around you.

"Where's your Gang?"

Its been a"a while" i didn't post anything due to the...my heart attack from mid-term. hahaha... anyway, hey people, its nice to come back from hospital!

I'm sure you do know what's a "gang" right? Me and my friends kinda have this 'culture' to call each other as in a gang. I had human com classes about group. So, the proper meaning for 'gang' should be group. Why did i use 'gang' but not group? Because it sounds cool when I said "hey, where my gang?" than "hey, where my group?".... hahahaha....nah! The reason why I call it gang its because this few people always hang out together. Let say, whenever you see me, you'll see the rest's with me. Of course, those always hang out together are normally buddies and they interact to each other more than to anyone else outside the circle. At the same time, they understand each other very well. So when it comes to grouping for assignments and reports, they'll stick as a group too. Because of knowing each other so well, they can simply finish the task faster than others group. Between that, they might have conflicts but its actually GOOD for a group to have that because it help you to improve your relationship and efficiency of your works. Conflicts are not always negative, it could be positive too.

Buddies don't ave to always TALK to show that you 'so love' your friends and you keep telling others that these gang of people are my buddies. **BLUR**...your friends know whether you're seriously like to be friends with them or you're just a faker. But how? Did you ever plan a secret birthday for your friends? Ever help them doing stuffs by not letting them to know? Comfort them when they're upset? Give advise ir even help them when they're in trouble? This is so-called the nonverbal communication. Your action, reaction and ect to what happen to our friend.


On the other hand, you and your buddies have your own hand-shake? Yea, thats one of the sign that shows you guys are buddies. Anotehr one is eye-contact. Have you ever send messages throught your eyes to your friends under a situation that you both can't speak? I had! And I'm glad we both understand each others' messages. However, the rest around us don't get it at all. I think, it needs efforts to... you know , get it.

XOXO, Phoebe's here, your sources to understand 'human' around you.

Stage fright...

XOXO Phoebe here your sources to understand 'human around you.

Our blog its kinda...'dead'...since last Sunday. Maybe because of presentations, assignments and stuffs. Anyway, as you know from the title I'm going to talk about stage fear.

Stage fright or performance anxiety refers to an anxiety, fear or persistent phobia related to performance in front of an audience or camera. In the context of public speaking, this is known as glossophobia , one of the most common phobias. This form of anxiety can precede or accompany participation in any activity involving public self-presentation. -According to Wikipedia

I kinda do some "interviews" among my friends and asked them why so nervous about presentation. Mostly, the answer is "Don't know la, just scare of people." How can we 'scare of people' we know? I mean during presentation, thats all our friends right? Yea, I suppose tell this to myself during my presentations. Haiz...those who's in my human com presentation will know what I'm talking about la. Everything should works out nicely cause I've already practice many times. But somehow,I don't know why my heart beats so fast, forehead kept on sweating,right hand and left leg kept on shaking while waiting for my turn to present. Then when I'm about to start, my mind just go "BLIND". I don't know what to say, what to do. The whole presentation, I was totally LOST!!! I guess its like some kind of chemistry or whatever psychology department in my body tells me that I'm nervous and I go and listen to them. From calming and chilling, turn to nervous and anxious. Then I just screwed my presentation. Honestly, I almost cry out but then I still didn't let my emotional lead me, means I'm still conscious but not for 100%.

After chilling and everything get normal, I was thinking why am I so ... you know. I remember that I wasn't that scare at my last sem presentations. So, I kept on thinking for a reason. I "preview" back my memory and try to figure what happened during my presentation. SUDDENLY... I think I find out whats wrong with me.

Firstly, before the presentation. I'm nervous and scare because I feel uncertain as to whether I will do well or not. I'm sure everyone do think like that right? We tend to think that how to do to gain more marks, how to present to make it more interesting, how to use special words and etc. then we'll worry about is these okay? is that okay? Should I just...? Do I need to...? Millions of tiny matters run through our minds before our presentations.


Then, during the presentation. I'm lost,anxious, worried... because I kept on worried about how others judge me, my friends, outsiders, and especially my lecturer who give me marks based on my presentation! I'm worry of can others understand what am I talking or not. Are people listening? Is everything going under my control? Why people are talking? Are they interested on my topic? And I ended up...LOST in the middle of my presentation. Plus, with people's "scary eyes" all looking at you, you'll felt like dig a hole and stuck yourself inside there. Yea, so thats my sharing. I think there's only one way to solve this, which is do not let your mentally tells you what to do. Do not let your feelings lead you. Just think rationally and speak/deliver what every message you have to. That's it!

365 days for a student?! Definitely not enough!!!!

XOXO, Phoebe here your sources to understand 'human' around you... just checked my mail, and someone sent me this, check this out, funny and its VERY TRUE!!!

It's not the fault of student if
he/she fails because the year ONLY
has 365 days...
typical academic year for a student:

1. Sundays - 52 Sundays in a year, you know Sundays are for rest.
Days left 313.


2. Summer holidays - 50 where weather is very hot and difficult to study.
Days left 263.


3. 8 hours daily sleep - 130 days GONE.
Days left 141.


4. 1 hour for daily playing- (good for health) means 15 days.
Days left 126.


5. 2 hours daily for food & other delicacies (chewing properly & swallowing) - means 30 days.
Days left 96.


6. 1 hour for talking (man is a social animal) - means 15 days.
Days left 81.


7. Exam days - per year at least 35 days.
Days left 46.


8. Quarterly, half yearly and festival (holidays) - 40 days.
Days left 6.


9. For sickness - at least 3 days.
Days left 3.


10. Movies and functions- at least 2 days.
1 day left.


11. That 1 day is your birthday.
How can you study on that day ?!?!?!?!?!

Balance = 0
' How can a student pass ?????'

What makes private talks so special???

Its the 3rd day of raya, how was your holiday so far? Sleep till whatever time u want, surf the net from morning till midnight (or should I say morning of the second day?) , shop shop shop till your wallet empty, OR maybe...just MAYBE some of you study? uh-huh? haha...anyway...XOXO, Phoebe here, your sources to understand 'human' around you...

Have you ever involved in a 'private talk'? I....consider it as a yes?! So, Whats a private talk? Who can have private talk? Does private talk must be interpersonal?

For me, when one needs a private talk with the other, means it must be something important, something serious and of course something private too! From what you see, the name, 'private talk' requires privacy (of course la). So, for example, when you and your gang chatting around, then all of a sudden, someone (Steven) come and 'drag' one of your friend(Jessica) to talk outside of the circle. Obviously, he don't want the conversation to be interrupt or being know by someone else other than Jessica.

There's no limitation for how many people can have private talk, nor even WHO can have. Erm...I guess what I can analysis is what kind of relationship can have private talk. Lets say, parents with their kids, teachers/lecturers with students, husband and wife, friends and friends...BUT, i don't think you'll have a private talk with a stranger or someone you don't really know when they ask for a private talk. They probably will kidnapped you or... haha anyway, these relationships have their own intimacy. When you get close with someone/you wanna disclose yourself to someone, you'll often have private talks. You guys talks about dreams, who you like/hate, gossips, yourself...things that you don't usually share to others. You're willing to share your privacy to someone, and that person is willing to listen and to share his too.

When I asked some friends what do they think about private talk, mostly their answer is 2 person talking about something only God and both of them know. Errr...hahha...the way they said it, just so funny. However, this is not true. Not that its not true, but its just not the proper answer for private talk, you'll see. Firstly, yea, private talk can involve only both of the person and God, but it also can be more than that. It can be 2 person, 3 person, even a small group. For instance, the top manager have a private conversation with 5 of the heads of departments.

In Gossip Girl, a lot of interpersonal communication and so do private talks involve in.

Dan and Blair - secretly planning for revenge.


Serena and Blair - girls' gossip, exchanging secret.

nate and Dan - its guys' turn for gossip.

Chuck and Blair - try to make things clear?

And a lot and a lots of the scenes are about it. Watch gossip girl, and you'll know. Season 2 is... WOW! hahaha...

I know what you're going to say!!!!!

XOXO, Phoebe here, your sources to understand "human" around you...

A very nice morning, laying on the bed, eating my french toast with coffee specially imported from Mexico, reading some new books I just bought....Honestly its weird, laying on bed at 11 on Thursday?! (For your information, I have to go college at 6.30 everyday from mon-fri) Anyway, Raya-raya(english version for hari raya, i guess) people!

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Wife: John, I've been thinking
Husband: Mmmm...
W: I've made a decision.
H: Uh-huh?
W: I'm going to stop work in September.
H: Well...
W: I know WHAT YOU"RE GOING TO SAY. How are we gong to manage on one
salary? Well we've done it before, and we'll do it again. We're far too extravagant anyway.
It'll do us good.
H: I...
W: It's no good trotting out your line about, "How will you cope without holidays and little
treats?" You saying that really infuriates me! You're virtually calling me a simple-minded
bimbo, which, for your information, I certainly am not.
H: You...
W: DON'T BOTHER TELLING ME I've got some secret reason for stopping work,
either. I haven't, and frankly I take exception to your view of as a devious self-seeking
female.
H: Could we...
W: No, DON"T TRY TO SMOOTH ME OVER. You can't call someone a neurotic
simpleton and then make it all right with a few glib phrases. No doubt you'll claim you "didn't
mean it". Well if you didn't mean it you shouldn't have said it! How would you feel if you'd
come to me with a care fully thought-through plan and had it steam-rolled? Because that's
what you've done.
H: I...
W: No, PLEASE DON"T INSULT MY INTELLIGENCE BY DENYING IT. I
simple won't listen. You've had your say, and now its my turn, or perhaps I don't get a turn?
Well I'm going to take it anyway. I've told you I want to stop work, but you don't seem to
hear me. Or rather you did hear me, but all you could do is go on and on in your usual way
about holidays and treats and me not coping. negative as ever! You don't agree so that's that.
H: Lets...
W: You don't have to say anymore. I get the message. Well all right, I won't stop work!
But just you bear in mind that it was you who bullied me into carrying on.
H: When ...
W: It's useless trying to backtrack now. It's too late! "Keep slaving away."Those are your orders
to the resident servant. Well, okay, I will. But I loathe you sometimes, and one day I'll find
the words to tell you how much -- If I ever get a word in edge ways, which is unlikely.
H: But...
W: I'm sorry, I don't want to hear anymore. You may not have finished but I have! I'm going
out! Good night!
H: (after a puzzled pause) if only I'd kept my mouth shut...


Cabbages for the King
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This is a part of the conversation that I felt interesting when I read the book. Felt familiar with it? I'm sure it happened among us, because we are always so sure we know what the other person is going to say. But we don't. For the wife, I've just got one thing to say to her which is, Can't you just LISTEN to your husband?! Can't you just CHILL for a minute?!! I mean, you sure get piss to the wife when you saw the dialogue above. But think yourself, how often we are the 'wife'? "I know what you're going to say"? The problem is YOU DON'T KNOW!!! why get too big to your boots? We're always smart aleck, tend to thought that we know better than others and that's why we don't listen. If you think you're so 'smart', talk to yourself! Don't talk to others cause you wont let others to say a word!


Such as the wife, we often use our perspectives to judge others. "Owh, you think I'm too self-fish!" "You mistrust me?!" You're pissed just because I stop the job?!" All these phases run through her mind during the conversation. So, whenever the husband wanna say something, she just "know what he's going to say". But what the husband think is totally the other round compare to what the wife think of him. Then, it end up all the misunderstanding, wrong messages, wrong attitudes, wrong opinion...stuck in both heart until the day they're willing to make things clear. So, just stop putting your concepts of others into others, things don't work that way.

Its been a long long day ... Part II

XOXO, its Phoebe here, your sources to understand human around you.

Believe me, even I don't know there's a part II after what happened yesterday. Remember what I said in my previous blog. I blocked my car in front of ms Debbie? Actually there's another car which i blocked it too. So after I post my previous blog, I went to car park to checked out my car. Here comes the 'part II', someone clamped my car! Great! now what?! I've to pay 50 $ to the security to unlocked my car, and I'm being scolded by him some more.

This is where the misunderstanding happened. Look, its seems that no one care about what happened to me. Yea, that guy might be in a rush and i've wasted his one/two hours waiting for me. I've apologize for that. What else he want?! I've sent my apologizes and I pay the 50$! Due to what had happened to me in the morning, I'm frustrated!!! When someone pissed, they just can't listen one single word you say. I've tried to explain but no one wanna LISTEN to me!!! Listen and hearing are not the same thing! You heard what I said but you didn't listen carefully! Listen for information before evaluating. Please make sure you completly understand what others are talking about then only you make judgement on it. Do not make the judgements with your own feelings and thoughts.

I watched a singoporean movie before, "I'm not stupid too". The film is about the lives of the 15-year-old Tom, his 8-year old brother Jerry, and their friend, the 15-year-old Chengcai. This satirical comedy touches on various issues facing Singaporean teens today, particularly the lack of communication between parents and children, and the lack of appreciation for good deeds.

Parents who worked from morning till midnight. who only give their kids money but no love. Their parents' busy schedules give them little time to spend with their children, leading to a strained relationship. One day, their son (Jerry) was caught for stealing money in the school canteen, and the principle called his parents. They scolded him and asked him why do you want to steal teh money, they hitted him when he don't wanna reply. At last, Jerry said, "I just wanna save 160$ to buy you an hour to come to my performance." Jerry used to asked his parents so many times by leaving stick-it-notes on the freeze. He wrote it everyday and its been a month and his parents haven't notice yet?!

Listening requires effort. People just simply giving faulty assumptions without putting any efforts to listen to it. There are times, where finally they're all together for dinner, Jerry tried to convinced his parents to go, but they just assume that Jerry's performances don't have much VALUE compare to their business and clients.

Its been a long long day....

XOXO, Phoebe here, your sources to understand human around you.

Supposing I should be in college at 8 o'clock in the morning for the 'heart attack' human com class. 1st something happen in the petrol station while I want to fill up my car's tank. And next, all of a sudden, someone BANG my car! You must be kidding God! Then ended up in police station! Great!!! =.=""""""""" By the time I reach college its already 10. things haven't end yet. I can't believe that there's no ONE SINGLE slot left?!!! After 30 minutes of wasting my petrol and going round and round the car park, I just give up!!! I ended up blocking Ms Debbie's car. Hopefully she's not leaving that soon. Anyway, I still manage to attend the other group's human com class and we watch a movie : "College Road Trip".

At the beginning (where I came in the class), its about a young lady,Melanie, going party with her 2 friends but was lying to her overprotective dad that she's going somewhere else.
Melanie: I CAN NEVER talk to the old man!"
Dad : "Me and my daughter have a solid relationship. We CAN talk anything!"
Parents used to think that they have a close-knit relationship with their children which is not true. Teenagers NEVER TELL EVERYTHING to their parents. We keep every things inside, we rather tell our best friends but not our parents. Trust me, cause I'm one of it.

Parents always thought that they can communicate well with their children. Yea, maybe for children but not for teens. Owh, come on folks. You're trying to communicate with a teen while your thoughts still stay in 90's?! Give me a break. During the road trip, in the car, you can see that Mel's dad is trying so hard to communicate with Mel by playing their old songs which Mel don't even want to remember it and to have a "DEEP" talk. But, things just don't work in this way. You can't fix the broken chain in one day. There's a short scene where Mel's mom scolded Trey(Mel's brother) for hiding in the track and follow them to the road trip. After scolding him, she said : I love you, son. Seriously, how many of our parents do thing like these? Yea, it is a small matter, but right after you scolded your son? This is when the relationship get tight, where the children felt LOVE. You scold them because you care about them, you don't want them to go to the wrong path, and when you told them "I love you" cause you really love them. Afterwards, Trey said : Dad, are you still mad at me for following?" And he said : "Son, i can never stand mad at you!" see?

Cultures, made a different family. It shows in the movie too. I beg you never will forget this. Besides Mel's family, there's another family which is the over-react, over-happy, and the karaokes family. Well, that's the way they are. You might find difficulties to go along with them, but that's their family. Everyone have their "Home sweet home" and their own family's culture and traditions. Its what built a family up.

Trustworthy is important among human. Trust your kids. The decisions they made. Sometimes, mistakes makes us grow.
Mel : I want a Dad who loves me, adore me and are proud to raise a daughter like that and trust me!.

Times flies...Things changed?

The baby blue skies, the refreshing air in the parks, hymns from the birds who used to wake you up in the morning...Nah! you must be dreaming!! Perfect happiness is an illusion. I'm sure we all always dream and imagine rite? We always thought college is so free and stuffs will be fine and better, and felt can't wait for college life during high school rite? Hahaa, if yes, you're definitely NORMAL!!! Have things changed, after you get into HELP? There must be something rite? Your lifestyle? Your new friends? Environment around you? Of course this are those things we have to go through la, but maybe even your attitude changed also? Your attitude had changed without any realization in you?

Its my second sem, and things seems started out of control. Its been crazy weeks, tons of readings, assignments, homework, meetings....The only reason that I'm still ALIVE is because I kept telling myself others are going the same things too, I'm not the most pathetic one!

I remember telling about me changing different characteristic in different places in the older post, i guess. In college, i found quiet hard to COMMUNICATE with others. Yea, COMMUNICATE! I just don't know why? Its like, i seems stone when I'm with others. But, it happened just among those I'm not very close with. I used to think that I'm good with socializing cause I'm really good at it! Seriously!! Outside of the college, I'm totally another person which was very the talkative, wild, party girl and whatever you wanna call. Hahha, some said I've some kind of fobia of HELP. Stupid la...blah blah blah... I've no idea what is this post about, and dont know what am i typing, do you? Don't care la, seriously don't have stuffs to post. Sorry Mr.M, My brain is STUCK!

You don't get it?

XOXO, Phoebe here, your sources to understand 'human' around you.

I'm always 'addict' to babies. Just can't stop hugging and kissing and messing around with them every time I see them. You know how babies talk right? Its like "arr..r..." , "buuu..uuu" , "mummmm..mmm"....its just like they're having their own language, the "babies' language". I had watched a movie which I've forgot what's the name but anyhow its about baby talking. Yea, babies are having their own language and they talk to each other (in the movie). But then, when they talk like we, adult do, adult don't understand it. The understanding its just among the babies. Even the parents can't understand it. However, at the end of the movie, when the baby girl was in danger, the baby boy was trying to TELL his parents, and his parents UNDERSTAND what exactly he said.

What I'm trying to say is, you can understand if you really WANT TO communication with someone or anyone. Sometimes you even knew whats happening just looking at one's expression.

Is language good? Not really. If language use in a wrong way, it'll bring to the negative side.

Last year, there's international exchanged students in my high school. I get to know few Japanese friends. So, here comes a day, they came and ask me whats 'bodoh' (stupid). I was like .... what? who tell you this? Then I know what happened, a gang of gangster keep on yelling 'bodoh' to them. They were so pissed when they realize 'bodoh' means 'baka' in Japanese. In Asia, we just knew a few of Japanese words, such as 'baka', 'aligatogozaimasteh' (thank you) , 'shumimashi' (sorry). Of course, the one we remember the most is 'baka, rite. I do think its quiet rude and disrespect. In addition, we spoil our country reputation.

Some said : careful with your words, it might just bring down a nation.

Meanings Rest in People, Not words.

XOXO Wakey wakey,People in HELP, Its Phoebe, your sources to understand 'human' around you.

Last night, during a conversation with my friend, I found something to share with you guys, of course, about human com la! Few months back ( i guess), the whole group of us (almost) went to taman megah for futsal. Its our first time to play together. Then someone, keep on asking me to be the goalkeeper for so many times. I just do it, but what I really want is to play in the field not being the goalkeeper! Then, after so many times of calling "Phoebe, go be the goalkeeper!" I was like "Why me?!" the moment the words slip from my mouth, some of them start laughing and said "because you're terror in it la!" Later on, only I realise! I kinda saw their 'eye-contact' and the words they said each time I caught the ball. Its was so obvious okay people, they're sending message to each other, which is "Phoebe is 'big' enough to cover up all the place, thats why she can get all the balls throw to her!" while yelling "well done Phoebe!". I was damn PISSED man! Start from then, I kicked the each ball with all my strength! Some people do feel my angriness, but those who make fun of me, just 'native' enough to pretend nothing happened. Remember my last post? You might enjoying making me as a fool, but obviously I'm not enjoyed! People, who's out of control, might just do something that even you never think of it!!!

It might just kill someone

XOXO Its Phoebe here, your sources to understand 'human' around you.

Amy, was a 16 years old girl with the weight of 80 kg. She started to gain her weight when she was 12 during UPSR because of stress. She was being tease for 5 years in secondary school just because of her weight. Its all small matters for her, but things changed when she meet a guy. She felt in love to the guy and decide to confess. She knew that he wont be liking such girl but she just wanna give it a try. However, that guy rejected her and said that she's ugly, fat...all kinds of words that people usually tease her. She felt insulted. Next day, Amy's mom found her commit suicide in her bathroom.

Sean, a boy who eat any food contains cheese. So,one day,as usual, he went to a cafeteria and ordered a marble cheese cake. Later at night, he had a serious stomachache and was sent to hospital by his family. After one day of body checked, he was being told by the doctor that its food poison. Since then, he'll vomit whenever he taste,see,smell,even just talk about it in a conversation.

These 2 are real life examples of perception. Yea, PERCEPTION. Do not underestimate this word!

Just like Amy, that guy was being affect by others opinion. Others used to tease Amy, and if others know that he's dating her, he's done! That's why he reject Amy. Yet, he can choose to be polite to her. He don't have to be so cruel to her. He can reject her in a more polite way. Instead of doing that, he choose the harsh way, and it brings with a girl's life.

We tend to make judgments on others by our own. These judgments are not 100% true, but others do believe on what we said. No one realize that the judgments we made might just ruin one's life. We,as human, we have brain okay?! Its can function well! Try to think yourself and not just believe on something based on listen to some judgments made by others. You might felt that the judgment you made is true, but it might be false too.

We are influenced by what is most obvious.
When Amy die, we tend to blame her for so stupid,foolish, irresponsible for her life...but we seldom find out the reason she committed suicide! Perhaps, that guy and the others who tease her, at least equally responsible.

Things happened not just because of one's fault.

What would I do if I had 24 hours to live?

XOXO Its phoebe here, your sources to understand 'human' arround us.

Few weeks back, Mr M asked me to write an essay, " What would I do if I had 24 hours to live?".

An image of my family came out immediately in my mind. Especially my mum. Why? I'll tell you why.

In my essay, I mentioned ... " I'll have few hours of conversation with my mum, because we often talk, or see each other. I'll tell her all my feelings of how painfull am I to have her to control my whole life. How confused am I to felt like I seems to hav no mother..." Sounds pathethic right? Haha... I beg some of you might feel the same way I do, Instead nowadays, parents work extremely hard for $$.

What was I trying to bring out from what I've just wrote is... Comunication is Not simple. At least between me and my mum. People used to thought that "communication" is just to talk. NO! There is communication skills when we talk.

Most people assume that communication is an aptotude that people develop with out the need for training-rather like breathing. After all, we've been swapping ideas with one another since early childhood, and there are lots of people who communicate pretty well without ever having had a class on the subject. Though a gross oversimplification as a natural ability seems accurate, it's actually a gross oversimplification.** There're some people who's always surround by so many others people. Let's say Jenny, she have tons of friends. People like to follow her, talk to her, play with her...why? Because she's FUN. She knows how to make jokes arround, how to communicate correctly with each one of her friends. BUT, not that everyone have such ability, for some people, you have to train their communication skills, and the rest just wanna be 'loner' whole life.

In my case, I have different status in different places. In college, I'm calm,quiet,and always alone and tired (recently). In home, I'm calm, never speak (coz no one in home) , In church/outside, I'll be wild, crazy, always laugh, happy-yuppy... I choose to be the 'invisible' character in home coz there's no one in home and i wanna to be the 'no one' too. When finally I have the chance to talk with my mum, its seems weird...sounds like strangers' conversation. Maybe, we both have already used to these kind of conversation. I do believe that more communication is better than none. It brings us to each other's world. It do affect children's mind and their characteristic. Just like the picture (top) shows. Try to think, why the kid said so? Maybe, she don't feel any love from her parents? Maybe, her parents often talk but always argue? Maybe her single-parents friends are better than her. Maybe...think about it.

I choose to 'free' myself when I'm with my friends and buddies coz...I don't know. Its just I don't have to pretend or wear any mask infront of them. Its all me, the real me. Friends used to call me "joker", not that I'm evil like joker but I make a lot a lots of jokes and we laugh all the time beause of my jokes. I'm such as Jenny (top), but only when I'm with my buddies.

Believe it or not, it all starts with communication.

**N. Coupland, H. Giles, and J.M. Wiemann, eds.,"Miscommunication" and Problematic Talk (Newbury Park, CA: Sage, 1991).

Everyone's Hero

Yesterday after I've post my 1st blog here, I rush to theatrette for my human com replacement class. BUT, the moment I open the door, I stone for a while because its dark and I was wondering aren't the replacement class suppose to be here? Then I saw Mr M sitting just beside the door and I realize its a MOVIE DAY!!!! Hurray~~!!! I was late for like 10 minutes but still catch up what its about. We're watching an animated comedy movie, "Everyone's Hero".

"Everyone's Hero" is a heartwarming comedy-adventure, telling the story of a young boy's thousand-mile journey to help Babe Ruth and the New York Yankees win the World Series. For me, its like some kind of encouragement movie. It shows that no matter who you are, the spirit, the strength, the desperation inside of you can help you to reach your dream.
I'm sure that Mr M choose this movie its for us to learn something in it, something related to human com right?

In the reality, if you talk to a baseball or a bat, its counted as "INTRAPERSONAL COMMUNICATION" am I right? Intrapersonal communication is 'communication with one self' (as what the text book wrote). You talk to the ball and then you imagine with your thoughts that the ball answering you the question. Owh, come on we do know these things are 'dead', its kinda you, yourself do the 'you ask you answer' conversation.

Throughout the movie, Yankee ( the young boy) keep on SELF-MONITORING himself. No matter, how hard the journey is, he keep on moving cause in his mind he wanted his dad to get his job back. That's the motivation which make him go through all the hardship.

At the end of the movie, there's one quote that i think its quiet nice and memorable, If I'm not mistaken its something like these
"...You can be the smallest, you can be the weakest, you can be the worst player on the field, but when people tell you you're no good, and say you should give it up, you know what you do? You just keep on swinging..."
Just like what I've said the day before this, PERSPECTIVE. Sometimes, you have to make something work by your own opinion not by others'. There's a scene that, Yankee running to the New York train to go back home but on the other way there's another train going Chicago. By right, he should choose the train to New York. But, at the end he choose to go to Chicago to gave the bat back to its owner, Babe.

Communication is not simple. Sometimes, it require trust too. Just like the trustworthy between Yankee and his parents. Stanley (Yankee's dad) suspect his son stole the bat and never listen to him when he tried to tell him the truth. That's what made Yankee going through all these hardship by his own. If Stanley willing to continue the conversation, willing to listen to his son, things like these won't be happened.

Posted by : Phoebe

Hey There

Hey people, first of all welcome to our blog. I'm Phoebe, one of the founder of our blog. Actually, I'm suppose to talk about what's human communication but as you can seen, Kim had said some of his idea of human communication.

At the very beginning of the first semenster, I kept on wondering what's about human com? Is it something like mass com? Of course not. Then, through out the semenster, I heard people's thoughts about human com. "Its damn hard man!". "OMG, I cant believe I failed my human com!!", "Damn it! I've got to retake my human com next sem and going through the same old things again!!"...Things like these giving me such thought that human com=wasting another $1,200 and 3+ months. But still, I believe in myself and enrol for human com. What I think of what my friends had just said is persepctive. If you keep on telling youself that human com is hard and i cant pass it then the result will be as your wish. Thats why I told myself i can do it as long as I work hard. Its not that I'm too confidence to myself and say that i can get HD or something but I believe that I'm going to love this subject.

I was a bit shock when Mr. M said that there was half of the class failed human com in last sem at the 1st day. And there'll be a lot of assignments compare to the other subjects. So, whats in my mind was "should I just drop?" But as you could see, Here am I. OMG, Its 3.30 now!!! I'm havin human com class now!!! Gotta go! Catch up with you later!

Posted by : Phoebe