The Haunting of Molly Hartley....

The movie of the year....

The movie you'll never want to miss...




Hatred or jealous?

Do you?




Molly (Haley Bennett) is a 17 year old girl who has physically recovered from a stab wound inflicted by her mother, but the psychological scars that remain run deep. To help her begin a new life after her trauma, her father has moved her into a new school. With her eighteenth birthday approaching, Molly is haunted by nightmares of her mother's attack upon her while dealing with the stress of being the new girl in school. Symptoms of psychosis that seem to be affecting her seem to foreshadow an onset of the mental illness that took control of her mother's life, but of several different explanations for her distress, the most unforeseen and terrifying is revealed as the truth. Ultimately, Molly discovers that her mother and others who share her mother's concerns want her killed in order to save her from a preordained life as a servant of the Devil.

Who are we to you?

Malaysian Today...the newspaper I'll grab every single morning the moment I walk into lower foyer. "We RAPED Our Friend's Fiancee...Youth Crime On The Rise" That's what caught my attention. I agree with the writer...'When Youth go bad, Who's to blame?...If you can't care for your own kids, DONT HAVE ANY!' Seriously, what for you earn the world by letting go your own kids?!! Your kids don't JUST steal, JUST accidentally raped or even killed someone! A lots of crime were committed by youths nowadays; drugs addicted robbery, rape even murder.

We all know who to go to when the kids' in trouble: their parents. BUT, Where were they when their kids were stealing something from the neighbourhood? were raping innocence girls?! were bitten someone who did nothing to them?!! were...killing someone just for teh sick of fun?!!! Parents, can give the world to their kids but ...not LOVE. I always jealous to those kids who have family day at every sunday...I never had one. What so proud if you come from a rich family? Being alone in the BIG house with maids only...should that be what kids deserve? MONEY CAN't BE EVERYTING! I admired some of my friends who can tell everything to their parents...Apparently, I can't. I don't even know to start the conversation and my mum doesn't seems care about my daily life. Yea, it might sounds silly but seriously...and i believe a lot of youths faced the similar obstacles today.

Sometimes, all we need is just our parents being there for for us, support us...thats all...however, its seems too difficult for the adults...

" How your children turn out is how the parents rear or treat them when they are young..." Said by Dr. Toeh Hsien-Jin. We, can't not communicate. Why don't spent some time talk with your kids? Yea, earning money is important but...your kids is important too! Start caring for your kids, you can make a differents.

XOXO, Phoebe's here, your sources to understand 'human' around you.

"Where's your Gang?"

Its been a"a while" i didn't post anything due to the...my heart attack from mid-term. hahaha... anyway, hey people, its nice to come back from hospital!

I'm sure you do know what's a "gang" right? Me and my friends kinda have this 'culture' to call each other as in a gang. I had human com classes about group. So, the proper meaning for 'gang' should be group. Why did i use 'gang' but not group? Because it sounds cool when I said "hey, where my gang?" than "hey, where my group?".... hahahaha....nah! The reason why I call it gang its because this few people always hang out together. Let say, whenever you see me, you'll see the rest's with me. Of course, those always hang out together are normally buddies and they interact to each other more than to anyone else outside the circle. At the same time, they understand each other very well. So when it comes to grouping for assignments and reports, they'll stick as a group too. Because of knowing each other so well, they can simply finish the task faster than others group. Between that, they might have conflicts but its actually GOOD for a group to have that because it help you to improve your relationship and efficiency of your works. Conflicts are not always negative, it could be positive too.

Buddies don't ave to always TALK to show that you 'so love' your friends and you keep telling others that these gang of people are my buddies. **BLUR**...your friends know whether you're seriously like to be friends with them or you're just a faker. But how? Did you ever plan a secret birthday for your friends? Ever help them doing stuffs by not letting them to know? Comfort them when they're upset? Give advise ir even help them when they're in trouble? This is so-called the nonverbal communication. Your action, reaction and ect to what happen to our friend.


On the other hand, you and your buddies have your own hand-shake? Yea, thats one of the sign that shows you guys are buddies. Anotehr one is eye-contact. Have you ever send messages throught your eyes to your friends under a situation that you both can't speak? I had! And I'm glad we both understand each others' messages. However, the rest around us don't get it at all. I think, it needs efforts to... you know , get it.

XOXO, Phoebe's here, your sources to understand 'human' around you.

leadership camp

i went to HELP's leadership camp over the weekend. it was really fun and i learned a lot of things. one of those things are communication related.

firstly, i was grouped with nine other people of which seven i didnt know. so we had to get to know each other fast as we had to work with each other for the next three days. im happy to say that i think my group worked pretty well with each other. we all listened to each other's opinions and gave our own, and communication between all of us was smooth. my group leader was very attentive to other member's needs, and made sure each of us had a chance to voice our opinions.

the first night there we had an activity called 'solo drop' where we were left in the jungle alone for some time. actually it's not really alone, everyone else is just a distance away but in the darkness, one cannot see. so anyway, before going into the jungle our camp facilitator briefed us one certain things. one of the issue he highlighted was the presence of natives because the jungle trail we were gonna go on borders the natives territory and they come out at night to hunt, so some of us might encounter them.

the facilitator thus told us that if that happens, they may smile at us. he asked us then what we should do. most of us answered smile back, because that was courtesy. but however, he told us never never to smile back because we don't know what a smile means to them. we may think it's courtesy, but they may think otherwise. so this experience taught me that what comes naturally to us, i.e smiling at those who smile at us may not apply to all territories and that we should becareful when threading unfamilar ground.

none of us came across natives though....

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Tham Sue Fern

sending email or face-to-face talk better?

In today's well-connected world, hi-tech gadgets and gizmos can help us communicate more easily. Technology has made communication nearly instantaneous, incredibly convenient and enormously accessible. But has it somehow made us less effective communicators? Should we monitor our method of communication more carefully? Does it really affect our messages?

my answer is YES. this is because when it comes to resolving broken promises, violated expectations or bad behavior with someone at work, resorting to hi-tech methods like e-mail, voice mail or text messages can amplify our problems. Anytime non-verbal signals are important in deciphering the message, the news is particularly bad or sensitive, negative feedback is being delivered or differing opinions will ensue, face-to-face communication is a must.

For example, when letting someone go, you treat the bad news as bad news. You allow the other person to show their concern and emotions.

A Little Effort May Be A Turning Point

Sometimes we just need to have a small step out, and it will really make a huge difference. However, there are always peoples that didn't do so, included me.

During my secondary school time, i actually have two really close friend. Unfortunately, with two really silly little conflict, we didn't talk to each other since the year end of form 3 until the beginning of this year. Actually in between, a lot of friend try to gather us together to recover our friendship, but no one willing to start the conversation, as what i mentioned which was only a small step out. In fact, this causes our friendship of more than two years. Although we are friends again now, the quality of our friendship is not as good as last time.

Both the conflict actually quite similar, which is both also related to competitions. One was a volleyball competition and the latter was a football competition. Both happen during the trip for the competition. Now, I will always think back of this two incident and ask myself why will i start this conflict and why don't I do little bit more after that and get our friendship recovered as soon as possible. I will always feel so regret that is causes two of my best friendship. As a result, now i will always try my very best to avoid any conflict with peoples.

This two incident actually shows us that sometimes, we will only need to do little bit more, and the effect will be totally different. For me, if one of us started a communication or conversation that time, the quality of our friendship will definitely much more better now. Therefore, put in effort while it is necessary to avoid any regrets in future, it could be a significant turning point.

Posted By: KokChin

Sports Carnival

Today is our college's sports carnival day. I represented hmc to play in the volleyball. What a exhausted and interesting day!!! Basically, my team contains only 6 player, which is 3 male n female each, therefore we can't afford to have any substitution like other teams as we are just enough of players.

As my teammates and I didn't really play together before and few of them i even know them just today, so at first we start introduce ourselves first. Then later on we started to discus a bit on the strategy. Between we had deal that each one will have to shout out loudly " Let Go" whenever he or she intend to take ball so that no miscommunication will happen like two fighting for a ball. Try imagine if we don't have this strategy, how can we control the ball well? In fact, this strategy really work for us, as we manage to enter the semifinals. Due to the fact that we don't have any substitution, our energy started to run off, especially the girls. Therefore, during the semifinal match, which was the hottest time at 12 something, our performances were affected. Some miscommunication happened as some forgotten to shout for the ball and it caused us losing points. At first we were like standing inside the court for losing only, but it didn't lasted long, we started to cheer each other up. Finally, the gap were closer as we started to catch up. However we still lost, but we were really happy with our late performances.

This show us that communication can really make a point in a game. It could help us when to avoid miscommunication in between and also useful when we facing some negative situation.

Posted By: KokChin

communication

communication is very important in a relationship. i recently read a novel, At First Sight by Nicholas Sparks that showed this clearly.

in the story, Jeremy and Lexie are a couple about to be married despite only knowing each other for about a week. but they convinced that they love each other and that's all that mattered. Jeremy was a city dweller, while Lexie was a southern girl and to make the marriage work, Jeremy decided to move to Lexie's town.

the problem starts when Jeremy starts receiving strange anonymous e-mail messages that made him doubt certain things within his relationship with Lexie. what adds to that is he saw her with her ex-boyfriend holding hands. however, he does not confront her about this because he wants to trust her.

but when things got worse and Lexie herself seemed to be denying that she had been with her ex when Jeremy saw them, he could take no more. while Lexie believed she didnt have to tell him everything about herself, she finally realized through speaking with her grandmother that there needs to be trust between two people making this commitment to each other.

so in the end, Lexie sat Jeremy to talk and she found out things he wasnt telling her and vice versa.

i haven't actually finished the book, but up till where i have, i realized that they could have avoided all the hurt and pain they caused each other if from the start they didnt hide things from each other and communicated their worries.

so, its important to communicate in a relationship even though you may think you know the other person through and through.

Post written by
Tham Sue Fern

Communication Under Noisiness

The noisiness I mean is not that few peoples are talking around so that there are noises around. What i mean is actually the noises are loud under we could hardly listen to what the person, which is sitting right beside or opposite us speaks. For instance, Disco.

I did went to disco before. The moment i went in, the feel is totally different, even my heart bit become a rocket compare to outside. The music there were so loud until my friend who is standing right beside me could not heard what I ask him at all. The question was "what drinks should we order?". More than 5times i had asked him, but he still didn't get my words. Finally, i need to take up a bottle and point to my mouth, only he understand, then we discus for another 15minutes to order because our communication later on were also need lots of action to let each of us to understand.

Right now, I am actually surfing the net in McDonald. Today, the situation is very much different than other days I come. There is a gang of kids around and 1 of them is the birthday boy i guess because there is a cake around. Why i mention this in my blog is actually because the situation is related to my topic. The kids is switching on some music and the volume is really really big. In fact, this actually be the barrier for me to talk with my friends beside me, so we could only change our communication style which is make use of the wireless here at McD and chat online.
I know it is weird to do this as we are sitting right beside each other, but it is the only way at the moment.

These situations actually shows us that we should try on different ways to communicate when there are some special issues around us that could be the distraction towards our No.1 style of communication which is TALK, so that we could still communicate without talking.

Posted By: KokChin

Special Occasion Special Communication

There are so many days in a year, it is impossible that every day will be the same and always be normal. I am sure there will be at least a few special occasion within a year, such as birthday, valentine day, ghost festival and so on...During such special occasion, definitely our topic for communication will be much more different and hopefully interesting right?

As an example, when someone birthday, you will wish her or him Happy Birthday. Normal day it is weird if we wish someone Happy Birthday but actually is not. While during Valentine day, couples will definitely have some special celebration, and another special thing is that the conversation them will definitely be more romantic and sweet compare to normal days. During ghost festival, a lot of people don't dare to go out at night as they believe that the ghost will come out during night time on that day and some even will ask others not to simply say things to avoid provoking the ghost.

Three weeks ago, one of my best friend celebrated his 2 years anniversary with his girl friend, so the whole gang of us went out together to celebrate. During the celebration, we all were really happy, especially both the main character and also the topics that we chat that day were also basically focusing on both of them. By the end of the celebration, my friend suddenly take out a branded handbag and give it to her girl friend because she really addicted to handbags. When she saw it, she was really surprised and said thank you with a really different expression compare to her normal expression.

As a conclusion, the communication will be much more different compare to the normal days according to different special occasions. These will actually make our life more interesting and more cheerful.

Posted By: KokChin

indicate the change in topics...

i wanna relate something strange and funny that happened to me today, of course having to do with communication. this happened between me and a friend(i hope she's not reading this...)

i was walking with her through the hallways in college, when we spotted a guy and a girl standing at the side. my friend knew the girl, and they greeted each other before we walked pass. after that, my friend told me if i saw the girl do something weird. although i do not know how to explain it here, i did in fact thought that the girl behaved weirdly when she saw my friend and me. and so my friend then tried to explain what she apparently saw, which i didnt.

we kept talking about that as we walked the length of the hallway, until we reached somewhere around LS 7. then she said something about the guy being the girl's brother. i obviously thought that she was still talking about the couple we saw earlier as she gave no indication that the topic changed. so i was a bit puzzled when she said that the guy was the girl's brother, because they were of different race. not to say that's its impossible...but at that time i found it unlikely.

so my friend went on to say that they look alike, but perhaps they're boyfriend and girlfriend. by now, i was more than confused. but i corresponded by saying that if they are boyfriend and girlfriend, the 'weird' thing that the girl supposedly did should mean nothing. at this point she gave me a look, and i immediately knew something was wrong. then she asked me what i was talking about, before realizing it by herself. after that, she finally made things clear.

she was actually talking about a couple who walked pass us at LS 7, not the couple we saw earlier. however, she never gave any, i mean ANY indication that the topic changed, so i continued to assume that she was talking about the earlier couple. we laughed about it, then she said to get back to the main topic. this time, i made sure to ask what main topic she meant.

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Tham Sue Fern

Stage fright II

Owh...Poor kid...I don't think we're that worse right? But still need help?
okay check out the next one ...



How to become calm instanly when you're nerve broken down during public speaking/presentation...

Stage fright...

XOXO Phoebe here your sources to understand 'human around you.

Our blog its kinda...'dead'...since last Sunday. Maybe because of presentations, assignments and stuffs. Anyway, as you know from the title I'm going to talk about stage fear.

Stage fright or performance anxiety refers to an anxiety, fear or persistent phobia related to performance in front of an audience or camera. In the context of public speaking, this is known as glossophobia , one of the most common phobias. This form of anxiety can precede or accompany participation in any activity involving public self-presentation. -According to Wikipedia

I kinda do some "interviews" among my friends and asked them why so nervous about presentation. Mostly, the answer is "Don't know la, just scare of people." How can we 'scare of people' we know? I mean during presentation, thats all our friends right? Yea, I suppose tell this to myself during my presentations. Haiz...those who's in my human com presentation will know what I'm talking about la. Everything should works out nicely cause I've already practice many times. But somehow,I don't know why my heart beats so fast, forehead kept on sweating,right hand and left leg kept on shaking while waiting for my turn to present. Then when I'm about to start, my mind just go "BLIND". I don't know what to say, what to do. The whole presentation, I was totally LOST!!! I guess its like some kind of chemistry or whatever psychology department in my body tells me that I'm nervous and I go and listen to them. From calming and chilling, turn to nervous and anxious. Then I just screwed my presentation. Honestly, I almost cry out but then I still didn't let my emotional lead me, means I'm still conscious but not for 100%.

After chilling and everything get normal, I was thinking why am I so ... you know. I remember that I wasn't that scare at my last sem presentations. So, I kept on thinking for a reason. I "preview" back my memory and try to figure what happened during my presentation. SUDDENLY... I think I find out whats wrong with me.

Firstly, before the presentation. I'm nervous and scare because I feel uncertain as to whether I will do well or not. I'm sure everyone do think like that right? We tend to think that how to do to gain more marks, how to present to make it more interesting, how to use special words and etc. then we'll worry about is these okay? is that okay? Should I just...? Do I need to...? Millions of tiny matters run through our minds before our presentations.


Then, during the presentation. I'm lost,anxious, worried... because I kept on worried about how others judge me, my friends, outsiders, and especially my lecturer who give me marks based on my presentation! I'm worry of can others understand what am I talking or not. Are people listening? Is everything going under my control? Why people are talking? Are they interested on my topic? And I ended up...LOST in the middle of my presentation. Plus, with people's "scary eyes" all looking at you, you'll felt like dig a hole and stuck yourself inside there. Yea, so thats my sharing. I think there's only one way to solve this, which is do not let your mentally tells you what to do. Do not let your feelings lead you. Just think rationally and speak/deliver what every message you have to. That's it!

365 days for a student?! Definitely not enough!!!!

XOXO, Phoebe here your sources to understand 'human' around you... just checked my mail, and someone sent me this, check this out, funny and its VERY TRUE!!!

It's not the fault of student if
he/she fails because the year ONLY
has 365 days...
typical academic year for a student:

1. Sundays - 52 Sundays in a year, you know Sundays are for rest.
Days left 313.


2. Summer holidays - 50 where weather is very hot and difficult to study.
Days left 263.


3. 8 hours daily sleep - 130 days GONE.
Days left 141.


4. 1 hour for daily playing- (good for health) means 15 days.
Days left 126.


5. 2 hours daily for food & other delicacies (chewing properly & swallowing) - means 30 days.
Days left 96.


6. 1 hour for talking (man is a social animal) - means 15 days.
Days left 81.


7. Exam days - per year at least 35 days.
Days left 46.


8. Quarterly, half yearly and festival (holidays) - 40 days.
Days left 6.


9. For sickness - at least 3 days.
Days left 3.


10. Movies and functions- at least 2 days.
1 day left.


11. That 1 day is your birthday.
How can you study on that day ?!?!?!?!?!

Balance = 0
' How can a student pass ?????'

Long Distance Love

Can long distance love really last??? The long distance love i mean is actually a couple which is separated by different country, not those which is only different state, as in my opinion, those which is in the same country but different state is still ok, at least they are still within the same country and similar environment, especially for Malaysia, as it is not a big country.

I do have a friend that having a girl friend that further her study at Australia. Recently, they have just broken up. They have been a couple for almost a year in Malaysia. When they were forced to separate due to the study stuff, they maintain their relationship for another 7months, but unfortunately, they still ended by breaking up. Many of us actually feel that it was unworthy that they ended up in such way, but nothing can be done.

In my opinion, every couple actually needs a really good communication between them to enable them to maintain their relationship. A good communication could help them to understand each other more. Try imagine, when you are in local while your girl friend were located at overseas, can you 2 still maintain the good communication between you 2?? Yes! it's true that you could still communicate through telephone or online chatting, but will it really as useful as face to face communicating?? One of the major disadvantages will definitely come to the different environment. Everything happening around both will be totally different, even one could tell the other one that what's happening around them but it is still difficult to totally understand on what one side is trying to say because of the different environment. We could hardly understand the situation when we don't really feel the environment before. Therefore, as time passes, the topic to communicate between the couple will actually getting lesser and lesser. As this happen, the understanding between the couple will be getting shallow and shallow as well. Misunderstanding that will affect a couple's relationship will easily occurs during that time.

As a conclusion, i feel that long distance love is really difficult to maintain, even long distance friendship is not that easy to maintain. Therefore, try to avoid to separate with your beloved one too far for a long period to avoid any negative situation especially communication problem. Anyway, i couldn't say that long distance love definitely cannot be maintain as nothing is impossible in this world, just try to avoid this happen if it is possible.

Posted By: KokChin

MY GANG

During my secondary school days. I used to have a gang of close friend. There are 7 of us. We are always together, no matter in school or outside. Actually our friendship started to be really close was during form 4. All 7 of us were chosen to be the board of director of the Leo Club of our school for the fiscal year 06/07. Therefore, we were always gathered together to organize functions and having meetings for our club. During that time, there was really a lot communication between us. In fact, we actually understand and know each other well.

Time flies, our secondary school life had finally came to an end. Every one of us need to have our own plan for our future. Out of 7, 6 of us chose to further our studies at kl, while the other one continues his study in form 6 here at Ipoh. For those in kl including myself, we still could always hang out together, but for our only remaining friend of our gang at Ipoh, we could not meet each other that often.

During this Hari Raya break, we all came back to our hometown and had a gathering between our gang. All of us were really surprise when we saw that remaining friend at Ipoh. He brought along his girl friend. He told us that they had already together for 2months. All 6 of us didn't even know about it before that day. We actually felt quite weird as we don't even know our best friend's situation. If it is last time, even some silly gossip about any one of us, we will definitely know. Anyway, we all know the cause actually. It is because the communication between us are much more less compare to last time. In fact, we have made a deal that everyone should try to online whenever they are free so that at least we could chat through internet even we could not meet so often, so that we could at least know each other situation and maintain our friendship.

Posted By: KokChin

What makes private talks so special???

Its the 3rd day of raya, how was your holiday so far? Sleep till whatever time u want, surf the net from morning till midnight (or should I say morning of the second day?) , shop shop shop till your wallet empty, OR maybe...just MAYBE some of you study? uh-huh? haha...anyway...XOXO, Phoebe here, your sources to understand 'human' around you...

Have you ever involved in a 'private talk'? I....consider it as a yes?! So, Whats a private talk? Who can have private talk? Does private talk must be interpersonal?

For me, when one needs a private talk with the other, means it must be something important, something serious and of course something private too! From what you see, the name, 'private talk' requires privacy (of course la). So, for example, when you and your gang chatting around, then all of a sudden, someone (Steven) come and 'drag' one of your friend(Jessica) to talk outside of the circle. Obviously, he don't want the conversation to be interrupt or being know by someone else other than Jessica.

There's no limitation for how many people can have private talk, nor even WHO can have. Erm...I guess what I can analysis is what kind of relationship can have private talk. Lets say, parents with their kids, teachers/lecturers with students, husband and wife, friends and friends...BUT, i don't think you'll have a private talk with a stranger or someone you don't really know when they ask for a private talk. They probably will kidnapped you or... haha anyway, these relationships have their own intimacy. When you get close with someone/you wanna disclose yourself to someone, you'll often have private talks. You guys talks about dreams, who you like/hate, gossips, yourself...things that you don't usually share to others. You're willing to share your privacy to someone, and that person is willing to listen and to share his too.

When I asked some friends what do they think about private talk, mostly their answer is 2 person talking about something only God and both of them know. Errr...hahha...the way they said it, just so funny. However, this is not true. Not that its not true, but its just not the proper answer for private talk, you'll see. Firstly, yea, private talk can involve only both of the person and God, but it also can be more than that. It can be 2 person, 3 person, even a small group. For instance, the top manager have a private conversation with 5 of the heads of departments.

In Gossip Girl, a lot of interpersonal communication and so do private talks involve in.

Dan and Blair - secretly planning for revenge.


Serena and Blair - girls' gossip, exchanging secret.

nate and Dan - its guys' turn for gossip.

Chuck and Blair - try to make things clear?

And a lot and a lots of the scenes are about it. Watch gossip girl, and you'll know. Season 2 is... WOW! hahaha...

chess game

i happened to be involved in and observed a chess game the other day. the first one, which i was playing, is between 2 females. (my friend and i) the one i observed was between 2 males. and i realized just by how each gender plays the game, the difference in a male and female's communication style.
in the game between females, all was quiet. women tend to remain silent during a game as probably a means to hid any intentions and tactics and then out of the blue, present a shocking move that wasnt expected by the opponent.

however, in the game between males, i find that each of the guys were constantly trying to psyche each other out. for example, if one guy takes too long, the other would say things like "scared already ah? the game just started, no need to scared" and when any of the pieces gets eaten, they'd say "i knew you were gonna do that. i purposely let you" and all other such things to make their opponent think that they have the game in control.

i find this to reflect how males and females communicate differently with each other.

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Tham Sue Fern

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Do love always there?

y do ppl always fall in love even though they dont know each other? guys usually fall in love by physical attractiveness. while, women always attracted by guys financial, higher education person. I know that Love is like the sun that radiates Its love rays on everyone regardless of beliefs.I know that Love doesn't judge any one's beliefs.

Communication is the transference of information from someone who sends the information to a channel which goes to a receiver of the information. Communication consists of the sender, the channel and the receiver. If u see the way that I am communicating with u, u'll see that the channels I open to u are based in love. For me it's all about giving, giving and giving love. When I hook ur attention and create the channel between us, I give you information, I give you love. There is a lot of energy transference going mainly from me to you. Each of you has a reaction in your own personal way.

My intention is to have a clean channel with all of you. That is how I intend to manifest the love that we use to connect with each other in order that we become one. Wherever the net is touched or moved, the vibrations are felt in all the directions of the net.

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chuan kim

I know what you're going to say!!!!!

XOXO, Phoebe here, your sources to understand "human" around you...

A very nice morning, laying on the bed, eating my french toast with coffee specially imported from Mexico, reading some new books I just bought....Honestly its weird, laying on bed at 11 on Thursday?! (For your information, I have to go college at 6.30 everyday from mon-fri) Anyway, Raya-raya(english version for hari raya, i guess) people!

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Wife: John, I've been thinking
Husband: Mmmm...
W: I've made a decision.
H: Uh-huh?
W: I'm going to stop work in September.
H: Well...
W: I know WHAT YOU"RE GOING TO SAY. How are we gong to manage on one
salary? Well we've done it before, and we'll do it again. We're far too extravagant anyway.
It'll do us good.
H: I...
W: It's no good trotting out your line about, "How will you cope without holidays and little
treats?" You saying that really infuriates me! You're virtually calling me a simple-minded
bimbo, which, for your information, I certainly am not.
H: You...
W: DON'T BOTHER TELLING ME I've got some secret reason for stopping work,
either. I haven't, and frankly I take exception to your view of as a devious self-seeking
female.
H: Could we...
W: No, DON"T TRY TO SMOOTH ME OVER. You can't call someone a neurotic
simpleton and then make it all right with a few glib phrases. No doubt you'll claim you "didn't
mean it". Well if you didn't mean it you shouldn't have said it! How would you feel if you'd
come to me with a care fully thought-through plan and had it steam-rolled? Because that's
what you've done.
H: I...
W: No, PLEASE DON"T INSULT MY INTELLIGENCE BY DENYING IT. I
simple won't listen. You've had your say, and now its my turn, or perhaps I don't get a turn?
Well I'm going to take it anyway. I've told you I want to stop work, but you don't seem to
hear me. Or rather you did hear me, but all you could do is go on and on in your usual way
about holidays and treats and me not coping. negative as ever! You don't agree so that's that.
H: Lets...
W: You don't have to say anymore. I get the message. Well all right, I won't stop work!
But just you bear in mind that it was you who bullied me into carrying on.
H: When ...
W: It's useless trying to backtrack now. It's too late! "Keep slaving away."Those are your orders
to the resident servant. Well, okay, I will. But I loathe you sometimes, and one day I'll find
the words to tell you how much -- If I ever get a word in edge ways, which is unlikely.
H: But...
W: I'm sorry, I don't want to hear anymore. You may not have finished but I have! I'm going
out! Good night!
H: (after a puzzled pause) if only I'd kept my mouth shut...


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This is a part of the conversation that I felt interesting when I read the book. Felt familiar with it? I'm sure it happened among us, because we are always so sure we know what the other person is going to say. But we don't. For the wife, I've just got one thing to say to her which is, Can't you just LISTEN to your husband?! Can't you just CHILL for a minute?!! I mean, you sure get piss to the wife when you saw the dialogue above. But think yourself, how often we are the 'wife'? "I know what you're going to say"? The problem is YOU DON'T KNOW!!! why get too big to your boots? We're always smart aleck, tend to thought that we know better than others and that's why we don't listen. If you think you're so 'smart', talk to yourself! Don't talk to others cause you wont let others to say a word!


Such as the wife, we often use our perspectives to judge others. "Owh, you think I'm too self-fish!" "You mistrust me?!" You're pissed just because I stop the job?!" All these phases run through her mind during the conversation. So, whenever the husband wanna say something, she just "know what he's going to say". But what the husband think is totally the other round compare to what the wife think of him. Then, it end up all the misunderstanding, wrong messages, wrong attitudes, wrong opinion...stuck in both heart until the day they're willing to make things clear. So, just stop putting your concepts of others into others, things don't work that way.