communication

communication is very important in a relationship. i recently read a novel, At First Sight by Nicholas Sparks that showed this clearly.

in the story, Jeremy and Lexie are a couple about to be married despite only knowing each other for about a week. but they convinced that they love each other and that's all that mattered. Jeremy was a city dweller, while Lexie was a southern girl and to make the marriage work, Jeremy decided to move to Lexie's town.

the problem starts when Jeremy starts receiving strange anonymous e-mail messages that made him doubt certain things within his relationship with Lexie. what adds to that is he saw her with her ex-boyfriend holding hands. however, he does not confront her about this because he wants to trust her.

but when things got worse and Lexie herself seemed to be denying that she had been with her ex when Jeremy saw them, he could take no more. while Lexie believed she didnt have to tell him everything about herself, she finally realized through speaking with her grandmother that there needs to be trust between two people making this commitment to each other.

so in the end, Lexie sat Jeremy to talk and she found out things he wasnt telling her and vice versa.

i haven't actually finished the book, but up till where i have, i realized that they could have avoided all the hurt and pain they caused each other if from the start they didnt hide things from each other and communicated their worries.

so, its important to communicate in a relationship even though you may think you know the other person through and through.

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Tham Sue Fern