now i only realised there is animal communicator? actually overall how do they communication with them? Communicating intuitively with animals means mentally sending and receiving thoughts, images, and emotions. Most animal communicators work from a distance using just a description and do not even see a picture of the animal. Animal talk to each other intuitively and are able to intuitively 'sense' people and the environment very well.
The idea of intuitive communication with animals and nature challenges long-held beliefs, like the beliefs that other species are inferior to humans intellectually and do not have the emotional or spiritual capacity humans do. Most people don't believe they have intuitive abilities, we actually use these abilities every day. Situation are like:-
-Knowing how someone is feeling emotionally or physically
-Realizing that someone is angry or upset even if there is no outward sign.
-Knowing who's on the phone before you pick it up.
-Recognizing when someone is lying to you or trying to manipulate you.
-Thinking about someone and then getting a visit, card or call from that person.
-Knowing how someone else feels about you
-Suddenly feeling an unexplainable dislike or uncertainty about someone or something.
posted by
chuan kim
Tuesday, September 30, 2008
communication clears up misunderstandings
i'd like to share a past experience which i consider to highlight some communication problems.
when i was in form 4, i had this replacement teacher who was transferred to my school for some sort of training program. i dont really remember her name, but i belive its Ms. Pre-something. she replaced for my english teacher. my first impression on her was that she wasnt very friendly because she had such a sour face and carried herself in an almost uptight manner. all the words that came out of her mouth was curt and straight to the point.
the first time she entered the class and introduced herself, she decided to do some literature with us, because that day was literature day and all of my class brought our literature books. so she discussed with us 'The Sound Machine', the story about this inventor who invented a machine that supposedly can hear sounds above and below the normal human range of hearing. so, she talked a little about it and asked some questions, to which she got little response. she then commented that we were passive.
she soon gave up on questions, and instead told us to get into groups and discuss among ourselves the characteristics of the main character. during the course of discussion, a friend of mine said something i found particularly funny, and laughed. it was that exact moment though that Ms. Pre-something looked my way and upon seeing me laughing, she got angry. she accused me of being rude, and asked me what's so funny. i was too bewildered to answer. she then made me stand to answer a literature question. i answered and was allowed to sit but right after that, she snapped.
she said our behaviour was rude, and that we were so passive. and then she commented about me laughing and that did we think its funny to laugh in class? (although i wasnt even laughing at her....) then she said she previously taught in a boarding school and that the students there are so well behaved, unlike us. she told us to review ourselves and that she expected better the next time she comes in. she left the class immediately after saying that.
when she has completely disappeared down the hallway, my entire class was up in an uproar. while some were just flabbergasted, most, including me, were quite upset. we completely didnt understand what she wanted. but by the end of the day, we all decided we didnt like her. so its no wonder the next time she came in, we were all cautious, and even more passive than before. but it was unnecessary, as we were in for a surprise.
she came in and said to us that she discussed with the other teachers about us, and she realized from what they said that she might have been wrong to judge us. she also said that we might have started on the wrong foot, so she was willing to burn the english period that day so that we can start over. firstly, we resolved all the issues that was bothering us. one of my classmates volunteered to ask. the question being that she said we were passive, yet when we discussed and talked, she said we were rude. so what exactly does she want? my classmate also cleared the fact that we werent passive, it just that with a new teacher, the environment is different. we were just warming up to her. we wanted to learn her teaching styles first.
Ms. Pre-something accepted our reasons and apologized before telling us that she shouldnt have compared us to students she taught in the boarding school. she understand that not everyone is the same. we accepted that too, and so no hard feelings. we continued conversing that entire english period getting to know her. after that, we never had problems with her again, and i find that she's actually a pretty nice teacher.
if we never had that clearing up conversation, i may not have felt that way though. we all might have assumed that she was just plain not nice. so because of communication, misunderstandings was cleared up. another thing that i think Ms. Pre-something would have learnt from my class is that assuming students everywhere is the same is wrong. so its important to adapt communication styles to different people and situations.
Post written by,
Tham Sue Fern
when i was in form 4, i had this replacement teacher who was transferred to my school for some sort of training program. i dont really remember her name, but i belive its Ms. Pre-something. she replaced for my english teacher. my first impression on her was that she wasnt very friendly because she had such a sour face and carried herself in an almost uptight manner. all the words that came out of her mouth was curt and straight to the point.
the first time she entered the class and introduced herself, she decided to do some literature with us, because that day was literature day and all of my class brought our literature books. so she discussed with us 'The Sound Machine', the story about this inventor who invented a machine that supposedly can hear sounds above and below the normal human range of hearing. so, she talked a little about it and asked some questions, to which she got little response. she then commented that we were passive.
she soon gave up on questions, and instead told us to get into groups and discuss among ourselves the characteristics of the main character. during the course of discussion, a friend of mine said something i found particularly funny, and laughed. it was that exact moment though that Ms. Pre-something looked my way and upon seeing me laughing, she got angry. she accused me of being rude, and asked me what's so funny. i was too bewildered to answer. she then made me stand to answer a literature question. i answered and was allowed to sit but right after that, she snapped.
she said our behaviour was rude, and that we were so passive. and then she commented about me laughing and that did we think its funny to laugh in class? (although i wasnt even laughing at her....) then she said she previously taught in a boarding school and that the students there are so well behaved, unlike us. she told us to review ourselves and that she expected better the next time she comes in. she left the class immediately after saying that.
when she has completely disappeared down the hallway, my entire class was up in an uproar. while some were just flabbergasted, most, including me, were quite upset. we completely didnt understand what she wanted. but by the end of the day, we all decided we didnt like her. so its no wonder the next time she came in, we were all cautious, and even more passive than before. but it was unnecessary, as we were in for a surprise.
she came in and said to us that she discussed with the other teachers about us, and she realized from what they said that she might have been wrong to judge us. she also said that we might have started on the wrong foot, so she was willing to burn the english period that day so that we can start over. firstly, we resolved all the issues that was bothering us. one of my classmates volunteered to ask. the question being that she said we were passive, yet when we discussed and talked, she said we were rude. so what exactly does she want? my classmate also cleared the fact that we werent passive, it just that with a new teacher, the environment is different. we were just warming up to her. we wanted to learn her teaching styles first.
Ms. Pre-something accepted our reasons and apologized before telling us that she shouldnt have compared us to students she taught in the boarding school. she understand that not everyone is the same. we accepted that too, and so no hard feelings. we continued conversing that entire english period getting to know her. after that, we never had problems with her again, and i find that she's actually a pretty nice teacher.
if we never had that clearing up conversation, i may not have felt that way though. we all might have assumed that she was just plain not nice. so because of communication, misunderstandings was cleared up. another thing that i think Ms. Pre-something would have learnt from my class is that assuming students everywhere is the same is wrong. so its important to adapt communication styles to different people and situations.
Post written by,
Tham Sue Fern
Friday, September 26, 2008
bizzare Ad translations
translating US ad slogans into other languages doesn't always work.....here are some examples.
in China, a Coca-Cola ad used Chinese symbols to sound out "Coca-Cola" phonectically. the soda company withdrew the ad after learning the symbols "Co" "Ca" "Co" "La" meant "Bite the wax tadpole"
according to a book called The Want Makers, "In Taiwan, Pepsi's 'Come Alive with the Pepsi Generation' was reportedly translated on billboards as 'Pepsi brings your ancestors back from the dead'"
in Brazil, an American airline advertised that its planes had "rendezvous" lounges, not realizing that in Portuguese "rendezvous" means a place to have sex.
in French Canada, Hunt-Wesson attempted to use its "Big John" brand name by translating it into French as "Gros Jos", a colloquial French phrase that denotes a woman with huge breasts.
when General Motors introduced the Chevrolet Nova in Latin America, it was obvious they didn't know their Spanish. ads all across Latin America heralded the arrival of the new, reliable Nova, which in Spanish means "doesn't go."
Post written by
Tham Sue Fern
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Reference: Edu Smith (November-December 2005, p.42)
in China, a Coca-Cola ad used Chinese symbols to sound out "Coca-Cola" phonectically. the soda company withdrew the ad after learning the symbols "Co" "Ca" "Co" "La" meant "Bite the wax tadpole"
according to a book called The Want Makers, "In Taiwan, Pepsi's 'Come Alive with the Pepsi Generation' was reportedly translated on billboards as 'Pepsi brings your ancestors back from the dead'"
in Brazil, an American airline advertised that its planes had "rendezvous" lounges, not realizing that in Portuguese "rendezvous" means a place to have sex.
in French Canada, Hunt-Wesson attempted to use its "Big John" brand name by translating it into French as "Gros Jos", a colloquial French phrase that denotes a woman with huge breasts.
when General Motors introduced the Chevrolet Nova in Latin America, it was obvious they didn't know their Spanish. ads all across Latin America heralded the arrival of the new, reliable Nova, which in Spanish means "doesn't go."
Post written by
Tham Sue Fern
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Reference: Edu Smith (November-December 2005, p.42)
communication of picture
Everywhere u are, there will be always have picutre. Even though, when we are sleeping; we might dreams picture too. Sometimes, there are some pictures which juz simply use a brush and draw. Who knows it show some meaning of the picture. For example, u draw a love shape on a piece of paper and show alot of meaning. It might mean u draw this love shape for ur love one or u juz draw when u are emotionally down. Sometimes, the love shape has many design and colour which mean might have different meaning.
Fews day ago, a friend told me about a 'meaning' of placing one hand into a photo like this. i was shocked at first but it turned out funny later on. she said to me, never to reveal such a photo because the possibility for someone to take knowledge of one's manhood is on the line. easy to say, 'it' is no longer a secret to the public.
posted by
Chuan Kim
Thursday, September 25, 2008
Its been a long long day ... Part II
XOXO, its Phoebe here, your sources to understand human around you.
Believe me, even I don't know there's a part II after what happened yesterday. Remember what I said in my previous blog. I blocked my car in front of ms Debbie? Actually there's another car which i blocked it too. So after I post my previous blog, I went to car park to checked out my car. Here comes the 'part II', someone clamped my car! Great! now what?! I've to pay 50 $ to the security to unlocked my car, and I'm being scolded by him some more.
This is where the misunderstanding happened. Look, its seems that no one care about what happened to me. Yea, that guy might be in a rush and i've wasted his one/two hours waiting for me. I've apologize for that. What else he want?! I've sent my apologizes and I pay the 50$! Due to what had happened to me in the morning, I'm frustrated!!! When someone pissed, they just can't listen one single word you say. I've tried to explain but no one wanna LISTEN to me!!! Listen and hearing are not the same thing! You heard what I said but you didn't listen carefully! Listen for information before evaluating. Please make sure you completly understand what others are talking about then only you make judgement on it. Do not make the judgements with your own feelings and thoughts.
I watched a singoporean movie before, "I'm not stupid too". The film is about the lives of the 15-year-old Tom, his 8-year old brother Jerry, and their friend, the 15-year-old Chengcai. This satirical comedy touches on various issues facing Singaporean teens today, particularly the lack of communication between parents and children, and the lack of appreciation for good deeds.
Parents who worked from morning till midnight. who only give their kids money but no love. Their parents' busy schedules give them little time to spend with their children, leading to a strained relationship. One day, their son (Jerry) was caught for stealing money in the school canteen, and the principle called his parents. They scolded him and asked him why do you want to steal teh money, they hitted him when he don't wanna reply. At last, Jerry said, "I just wanna save 160$ to buy you an hour to come to my performance." Jerry used to asked his parents so many times by leaving stick-it-notes on the freeze. He wrote it everyday and its been a month and his parents haven't notice yet?!
Listening requires effort. People just simply giving faulty assumptions without putting any efforts to listen to it. There are times, where finally they're all together for dinner, Jerry tried to convinced his parents to go, but they just assume that Jerry's performances don't have much VALUE compare to their business and clients.
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
Its been a long long day....
XOXO, Phoebe here, your sources to understand human around you.
Supposing I should be in college at 8 o'clock in the morning for the 'heart attack' human com class. 1st something happen in the petrol station while I want to fill up my car's tank. And next, all of a sudden, someone BANG my car! You must be kidding God! Then ended up in police station! Great!!! =.=""""""""" By the time I reach college its already 10. things haven't end yet. I can't believe that there's no ONE SINGLE slot left?!!! After 30 minutes of wasting my petrol and going round and round the car park, I just give up!!! I ended up blocking Ms Debbie's car. Hopefully she's not leaving that soon. Anyway, I still manage to attend the other group's human com class and we watch a movie : "College Road Trip".
At the beginning (where I came in the class), its about a young lady,Melanie, going party with her 2 friends but was lying to her overprotective dad that she's going somewhere else.
Melanie: I CAN NEVER talk to the old man!"
Dad : "Me and my daughter have a solid relationship. We CAN talk anything!"
Parents used to think that they have a close-knit relationship with their children which is not true. Teenagers NEVER TELL EVERYTHING to their parents. We keep every things inside, we rather tell our best friends but not our parents. Trust me, cause I'm one of it.
Parents always thought that they can communicate well with their children. Yea, maybe for children but not for teens. Owh, come on folks. You're trying to communicate with a teen while your thoughts still stay in 90's?! Give me a break. During the road trip, in the car, you can see that Mel's dad is trying so hard to communicate with Mel by playing their old songs which Mel don't even want to remember it and to have a "DEEP" talk. But, things just don't work in this way. You can't fix the broken chain in one day. There's a short scene where Mel's mom scolded Trey(Mel's brother) for hiding in the track and follow them to the road trip. After scolding him, she said : I love you, son. Seriously, how many of our parents do thing like these? Yea, it is a small matter, but right after you scolded your son? This is when the relationship get tight, where the children felt LOVE. You scold them because you care about them, you don't want them to go to the wrong path, and when you told them "I love you" cause you really love them. Afterwards, Trey said : Dad, are you still mad at me for following?" And he said : "Son, i can never stand mad at you!" see?
Cultures, made a different family. It shows in the movie too. I beg you never will forget this. Besides Mel's family, there's another family which is the over-react, over-happy, and the karaokes family. Well, that's the way they are. You might find difficulties to go along with them, but that's their family. Everyone have their "Home sweet home" and their own family's culture and traditions. Its what built a family up.
Trustworthy is important among human. Trust your kids. The decisions they made. Sometimes, mistakes makes us grow.
Mel : I want a Dad who loves me, adore me and are proud to raise a daughter like that and trust me!.
Supposing I should be in college at 8 o'clock in the morning for the 'heart attack' human com class. 1st something happen in the petrol station while I want to fill up my car's tank. And next, all of a sudden, someone BANG my car! You must be kidding God! Then ended up in police station! Great!!! =.=""""""""" By the time I reach college its already 10. things haven't end yet. I can't believe that there's no ONE SINGLE slot left?!!! After 30 minutes of wasting my petrol and going round and round the car park, I just give up!!! I ended up blocking Ms Debbie's car. Hopefully she's not leaving that soon. Anyway, I still manage to attend the other group's human com class and we watch a movie : "College Road Trip".
At the beginning (where I came in the class), its about a young lady,Melanie, going party with her 2 friends but was lying to her overprotective dad that she's going somewhere else.
Melanie: I CAN NEVER talk to the old man!"
Dad : "Me and my daughter have a solid relationship. We CAN talk anything!"
Parents used to think that they have a close-knit relationship with their children which is not true. Teenagers NEVER TELL EVERYTHING to their parents. We keep every things inside, we rather tell our best friends but not our parents. Trust me, cause I'm one of it.
Parents always thought that they can communicate well with their children. Yea, maybe for children but not for teens. Owh, come on folks. You're trying to communicate with a teen while your thoughts still stay in 90's?! Give me a break. During the road trip, in the car, you can see that Mel's dad is trying so hard to communicate with Mel by playing their old songs which Mel don't even want to remember it and to have a "DEEP" talk. But, things just don't work in this way. You can't fix the broken chain in one day. There's a short scene where Mel's mom scolded Trey(Mel's brother) for hiding in the track and follow them to the road trip. After scolding him, she said : I love you, son. Seriously, how many of our parents do thing like these? Yea, it is a small matter, but right after you scolded your son? This is when the relationship get tight, where the children felt LOVE. You scold them because you care about them, you don't want them to go to the wrong path, and when you told them "I love you" cause you really love them. Afterwards, Trey said : Dad, are you still mad at me for following?" And he said : "Son, i can never stand mad at you!" see?
Cultures, made a different family. It shows in the movie too. I beg you never will forget this. Besides Mel's family, there's another family which is the over-react, over-happy, and the karaokes family. Well, that's the way they are. You might find difficulties to go along with them, but that's their family. Everyone have their "Home sweet home" and their own family's culture and traditions. Its what built a family up.
Trustworthy is important among human. Trust your kids. The decisions they made. Sometimes, mistakes makes us grow.
Mel : I want a Dad who loves me, adore me and are proud to raise a daughter like that and trust me!.
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Communication with music
have u ever think that a person sing without music izit weird or not? yet a person sing well then different case. however, sing with music still is the best because make the person have confident to sing better and follow the flow of the music it make better of a song when a person sing. How about this, do you know who is the first person sing and create music? actually my ownself dont really know that and where does music from?
Since the beginning of time music has always been a source of communication. Until now, it is one of the most powerful influence, enhance, educate or destroy one's mind. Especially, young minds! No matter what nationality, handing down history or sending information through music breaks all color barriers. I know that last time they need music instrument to play a song but now we can easily get it from computer which is digital sound.
Artistically speaking, social surrounding and personal experiences always seem to affect the music and lyrics of different artist including myself. I'm sure that deep down in the back of your minds there's the desire to want to change things and express yourself.
Music is an Art Form and all art forms use expressions. You can't tell me that if you read where children are being abused, the kids are getting hooked and selling crack on the corners, the KKK is in town, your cousin got shot at a party, your child is gay, your country is at war, someone in your family is dying from some disease, your neighbor got raped by the man down the street or people are being abused and murdered by the police that you can express yourself artistically without thinking of these things. These thoughts have to come out at sometime during the course of your artistic creativities. It's the POWER OF COMMUNICATION !
posted by chuan kim
Since the beginning of time music has always been a source of communication. Until now, it is one of the most powerful influence, enhance, educate or destroy one's mind. Especially, young minds! No matter what nationality, handing down history or sending information through music breaks all color barriers. I know that last time they need music instrument to play a song but now we can easily get it from computer which is digital sound.
Artistically speaking, social surrounding and personal experiences always seem to affect the music and lyrics of different artist including myself. I'm sure that deep down in the back of your minds there's the desire to want to change things and express yourself.
Music is an Art Form and all art forms use expressions. You can't tell me that if you read where children are being abused, the kids are getting hooked and selling crack on the corners, the KKK is in town, your cousin got shot at a party, your child is gay, your country is at war, someone in your family is dying from some disease, your neighbor got raped by the man down the street or people are being abused and murdered by the police that you can express yourself artistically without thinking of these things. These thoughts have to come out at sometime during the course of your artistic creativities. It's the POWER OF COMMUNICATION !
posted by chuan kim
Sunday, September 21, 2008
Bas Mini Trip
Yesterday, I went for a steamboat dinner with my friends nearby Sunway Pyramid. We ate until 9.30 at night. Due to the fact that the whole gang of us do not have our own transports, we were wondering around the restaurant to find a teksi to go home. Unfortunately, we didn't get it, so we walk back to Sunway Pyramid because it will be easier to get a public transport at the shopping complex.
After some distance of walking, we finally reach Sunway Pyramid. We actually saw a lot of teksi standing by at there and also a BAS MINI waiting there. Suddenly, 1 of my friend suggested us to take the Bas Mini instead of teksi as it costs only 70cent compare to rm3 for teksi and he say it takes only 5minutes more than a teksi to reach our home which is at subang jaya ss15. The only disadvantage is that there is no air-conditioned provided. However, we decided to save some money, so we just pay to the bus driver and went in the little bus.
Things unusual happen as we realized that the route was a bit different today, instead of turning right as usual, the driver turn left, but we still thought it is inside Subang Jaya so we stay stable. After some time, we start to mumbling with each other as we have been sitting in the bus for about 30minutes as normally we only need 10 minutes to reach home. Later on, the bus even cross a toll. We start discussing whats the problem today, and i went on to ask the driver and questioned him he don't pass by our place today. Oh, my god!!!!! He told me that the route is different for this trip and he also pointed that the signboard had already shown in front but none of us realized. Finally, we went down at a petrol station after the toll. We did stop some teksi to ask for the prices to back home but it was really costly, so one of my friend called her sister and she fetched us home.
As a conclusion, this incident actually happened just because of the lack of communication between us and the bus driver. We did not take the trouble to ask the driver earlier even we were not sure where the bus is going. It teaches us to ask as soon as possible whenever we are not sure on anything.
Posted By: KokChin
After some distance of walking, we finally reach Sunway Pyramid. We actually saw a lot of teksi standing by at there and also a BAS MINI waiting there. Suddenly, 1 of my friend suggested us to take the Bas Mini instead of teksi as it costs only 70cent compare to rm3 for teksi and he say it takes only 5minutes more than a teksi to reach our home which is at subang jaya ss15. The only disadvantage is that there is no air-conditioned provided. However, we decided to save some money, so we just pay to the bus driver and went in the little bus.
Things unusual happen as we realized that the route was a bit different today, instead of turning right as usual, the driver turn left, but we still thought it is inside Subang Jaya so we stay stable. After some time, we start to mumbling with each other as we have been sitting in the bus for about 30minutes as normally we only need 10 minutes to reach home. Later on, the bus even cross a toll. We start discussing whats the problem today, and i went on to ask the driver and questioned him he don't pass by our place today. Oh, my god!!!!! He told me that the route is different for this trip and he also pointed that the signboard had already shown in front but none of us realized. Finally, we went down at a petrol station after the toll. We did stop some teksi to ask for the prices to back home but it was really costly, so one of my friend called her sister and she fetched us home.
As a conclusion, this incident actually happened just because of the lack of communication between us and the bus driver. We did not take the trouble to ask the driver earlier even we were not sure where the bus is going. It teaches us to ask as soon as possible whenever we are not sure on anything.
Posted By: KokChin
i went to the library the other day and found a book about communication. and in the book, surprisingly, i found this!
the triangular theory of love developed by psychologist Robert Sternberg. i never knew that it was a part of communication. my friend and i were just discussing this theory recently. it basically categorizes love in the context of interpersonal relationship by three different components, which are intimacy, passion and commitment.
the perfect love, consummate love, would involve all three components. and all the other six categories lack one of two of the three components. but because consummate love is so hard to achieve and even though achieved, harder to maintain, my friend and i were debating on whether romantic love or companionate love is better. was it better to lack commitment or passion in a relationship?
another thing i noticed is that the three on the bottom half of the triangle(infatuation, fatuous and empty love) all lack one particular component, which the other four all have, which is intimacy. the fact that the four also seem to me as more ideal types of love led me to one conclusion. intimacy is very important in a relationship. as it is the definition of intimacy : Which encompasses feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness
Post written by
Tham Sue Fern
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Reference: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangular_theory_of_love
the triangular theory of love developed by psychologist Robert Sternberg. i never knew that it was a part of communication. my friend and i were just discussing this theory recently. it basically categorizes love in the context of interpersonal relationship by three different components, which are intimacy, passion and commitment.the perfect love, consummate love, would involve all three components. and all the other six categories lack one of two of the three components. but because consummate love is so hard to achieve and even though achieved, harder to maintain, my friend and i were debating on whether romantic love or companionate love is better. was it better to lack commitment or passion in a relationship?
another thing i noticed is that the three on the bottom half of the triangle(infatuation, fatuous and empty love) all lack one particular component, which the other four all have, which is intimacy. the fact that the four also seem to me as more ideal types of love led me to one conclusion. intimacy is very important in a relationship. as it is the definition of intimacy : Which encompasses feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness
Post written by
Tham Sue Fern
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Reference: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangular_theory_of_love
No Communication No Friends
As everyone knows that we, humans are definitely won't be surviving without food and water. but I am sure everyone knows that these are not our only basic needs. Actually, the one that I am going to emphasize here is FRIENDS.
Besides our family member, friends will actually be the one closest yo us. Although there are no statement stating that we can't survive without friends, i can tell u very surely that our life won't be happy and will be really lonely. Hey guys, don't forget that every couple starts from the relationship of friends. Therefore, there is actually no way for us to be in love if we don't have a single friend. Of course, we don't make friends just because we want to fall in love.
So, how we make friends? Communicate is the solution right? I really don't think that two individual standing at there and looking at each others can develop a friendship. At least they have to introduce themselves and ask some questions about the other side as a basic understanding of each one, later on they will have to communicate more to understand each other more so that their friendship could be improved as time passes, by then only they could share their private stuff together as it will be really pressure if we keep everything with our own. With some trustful friends around, at least we could express some of it out to release some of our tension and get some different opinions from them.
This actually shows how communication help to start up a friendship and improve a friendship, even when we are sharing our things we need to communicate as others could hardly totally understand of what we are thinking if we ourselves don't make any response, no matter how close we are. Therefore, with communication, friends available, and life will be brighten up; without communication, friends unavailable, and life will be bored and lonely.
Posted By: KokChin
Besides our family member, friends will actually be the one closest yo us. Although there are no statement stating that we can't survive without friends, i can tell u very surely that our life won't be happy and will be really lonely. Hey guys, don't forget that every couple starts from the relationship of friends. Therefore, there is actually no way for us to be in love if we don't have a single friend. Of course, we don't make friends just because we want to fall in love.
So, how we make friends? Communicate is the solution right? I really don't think that two individual standing at there and looking at each others can develop a friendship. At least they have to introduce themselves and ask some questions about the other side as a basic understanding of each one, later on they will have to communicate more to understand each other more so that their friendship could be improved as time passes, by then only they could share their private stuff together as it will be really pressure if we keep everything with our own. With some trustful friends around, at least we could express some of it out to release some of our tension and get some different opinions from them.
This actually shows how communication help to start up a friendship and improve a friendship, even when we are sharing our things we need to communicate as others could hardly totally understand of what we are thinking if we ourselves don't make any response, no matter how close we are. Therefore, with communication, friends available, and life will be brighten up; without communication, friends unavailable, and life will be bored and lonely.
Posted By: KokChin
Saturday, September 20, 2008
Can a person dont speak for a day ? Non verbal communication
it is hard not to speak a day. Dont u think that is hard? Even if you are able to keep from moving you will still communicate rigidity, anxiety, or something. We are always saying something. i think that a person think intellectually rather than always saying emotionally. Yet, they is some truth in the old cliche "actions speak louder than words.''
Nonverbal communication is learned and practiced often on an unconscious level. We attract people by using these nonverbal signals, and sometimes those we attract are unwholesome. Each of people will use gestures in a daily. it uses the same gestures to signify certain feelings. Gestures also can occur in clusters, so that while any particular gesture alone may not mean much
there are some nonverbal gesture:
-eye contact
-smile, leaning forward, relaxed
-hands away from face, possibly behind back
-standing straight, feet slightly apart, shoulders squared
-leaning forward (positive) and leaning back (negative)
-head tilted, ear cocked
-peering over top of glasses
posted by
chuan kim
Nonverbal communication is learned and practiced often on an unconscious level. We attract people by using these nonverbal signals, and sometimes those we attract are unwholesome. Each of people will use gestures in a daily. it uses the same gestures to signify certain feelings. Gestures also can occur in clusters, so that while any particular gesture alone may not mean much
there are some nonverbal gesture:
-eye contact
-smile, leaning forward, relaxed
-hands away from face, possibly behind back
-standing straight, feet slightly apart, shoulders squared
-leaning forward (positive) and leaning back (negative)
-head tilted, ear cocked
-peering over top of glasses
posted by
chuan kim
body language
non-verbal communication occurs everyday and involves a wide range of actions, from facial expressions to gestures and even the way we stand. a simple flick of the eyes to the person across the hall is a non-verbal communication too. as such, body language is a form of non-verbal communication. and it is a powerful language indeed. sometimes what we dont say speaks louder than what we do say. so goes the saying 'a picture tells a thousand words'.
our body language may sometimes contradict the words that come from our mouths. and as it says more than words do, others will tend to concentrate more on it, and thus body language can reveal our true feelings and intentions even if we say otherwise.
but sometimes i feel that some people fail to understand body language. whether they truly do not get it or they are ignoring it...i do not know. but for example, if i went up to a person who is doing work and talked to him or her, and this person could not be bothered to look at me while talking, i would perceive it as he or she is busy, and have no interest in talking at that particular time. well, that is certainly what i would do. if i didnt want to say it straight that i'm busy, i would reply with one liners and initiate as little eye contact as possible. most people get it, but some dont.
take another example, when someone says that they're hungry, but instead of eating pokes around with the food. but because body language is so effective in telling others our true feelings, they sometimes cause misunderstandings and fights as we sometimes really may not have meant it, but we cannot control our body's reaction. some people dont get it sometimes, but we shouldnt bet on it.
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Tham Sue Fern
our body language may sometimes contradict the words that come from our mouths. and as it says more than words do, others will tend to concentrate more on it, and thus body language can reveal our true feelings and intentions even if we say otherwise.
but sometimes i feel that some people fail to understand body language. whether they truly do not get it or they are ignoring it...i do not know. but for example, if i went up to a person who is doing work and talked to him or her, and this person could not be bothered to look at me while talking, i would perceive it as he or she is busy, and have no interest in talking at that particular time. well, that is certainly what i would do. if i didnt want to say it straight that i'm busy, i would reply with one liners and initiate as little eye contact as possible. most people get it, but some dont.
take another example, when someone says that they're hungry, but instead of eating pokes around with the food. but because body language is so effective in telling others our true feelings, they sometimes cause misunderstandings and fights as we sometimes really may not have meant it, but we cannot control our body's reaction. some people dont get it sometimes, but we shouldnt bet on it.
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Tham Sue Fern
Thursday, September 18, 2008
Times flies...Things changed?
The baby blue skies, the refreshing air in the parks, hymns from the birds who used to wake you up in the morning...Nah! you must be dreaming!! Perfect happiness is an illusion. I'm sure we all always dream and imagine rite? We always thought college is so free and stuffs will be fine and better, and felt can't wait for college life during high school rite? Hahaa, if yes, you're definitely NORMAL!!! Have things changed, after you get into HELP? There must be something rite? Your lifestyle? Your new friends? Environment around you? Of course this are those things we have to go through la, but maybe even your attitude changed also? Your attitude had changed without any realization in you?
Its my second sem, and things seems started out of control. Its been crazy weeks, tons of readings, assignments, homework, meetings....The only reason that I'm still ALIVE is because I kept telling myself others are going the same things too, I'm not the most pathetic one!
I remember telling about me changing different characteristic in different places in the older post, i guess. In college, i found quiet hard to COMMUNICATE with others. Yea, COMMUNICATE! I just don't know why? Its like, i seems stone when I'm with others. But, it happened just among those I'm not very close with. I used to think that I'm good with socializing cause I'm really good at it! Seriously!! Outside of the college, I'm totally another person which was very the talkative, wild, party girl and whatever you wanna call. Hahha, some said I've some kind of fobia of HELP. Stupid la...blah blah blah... I've no idea what is this post about, and dont know what am i typing, do you? Don't care la, seriously don't have stuffs to post. Sorry Mr.M, My brain is STUCK!
Its my second sem, and things seems started out of control. Its been crazy weeks, tons of readings, assignments, homework, meetings....The only reason that I'm still ALIVE is because I kept telling myself others are going the same things too, I'm not the most pathetic one!
I remember telling about me changing different characteristic in different places in the older post, i guess. In college, i found quiet hard to COMMUNICATE with others. Yea, COMMUNICATE! I just don't know why? Its like, i seems stone when I'm with others. But, it happened just among those I'm not very close with. I used to think that I'm good with socializing cause I'm really good at it! Seriously!! Outside of the college, I'm totally another person which was very the talkative, wild, party girl and whatever you wanna call. Hahha, some said I've some kind of fobia of HELP. Stupid la...blah blah blah... I've no idea what is this post about, and dont know what am i typing, do you? Don't care la, seriously don't have stuffs to post. Sorry Mr.M, My brain is STUCK!
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
Well Prepared For Better Communication
Everyone can communicate with each other, either it will be success or unsuccess. It actually means that whether the person u talking to can really understand or receive the messages that u intended to send out. It is actually really difficult to totally understand what people said unless you are really familiar with the topic which carried out.
Due to the fact that i have not been studying accounts before this semester, I am actually facing such problem in my accounting lesson at the beginning. I can't really understand what the lecturer is teaching. When she ask who doesn't understand please raise up their hand, i will always raise my hand up, but even after she gave me her second explanation, i still couldn't get exactly what she mean. Finally, my brother teaches me a technique that he used lastime when he is facing such problem. He asked me to read the chapter that the lecturer will be going to teach before the lecture itself. I did follow and it prove to be useful. Although i still couldn't totally understand during the lecture, at least now i could get the basic idea of what the lecturer is trying to tell us.
This actually shows us that it will actually easier for us to understand if we already have a basic idea about a certain topic when other people tell us about that topic. Just like it will be easier to communicate if i am talking about politics with someone who knows politics rather than talking to a person who know nothing about politics. However, sometimes we will have to due with some topics that we don't know at all, therefore, to avoid any miscommunication, we should do some research about that topic well ahead.
Posted By: KokChin
Due to the fact that i have not been studying accounts before this semester, I am actually facing such problem in my accounting lesson at the beginning. I can't really understand what the lecturer is teaching. When she ask who doesn't understand please raise up their hand, i will always raise my hand up, but even after she gave me her second explanation, i still couldn't get exactly what she mean. Finally, my brother teaches me a technique that he used lastime when he is facing such problem. He asked me to read the chapter that the lecturer will be going to teach before the lecture itself. I did follow and it prove to be useful. Although i still couldn't totally understand during the lecture, at least now i could get the basic idea of what the lecturer is trying to tell us.
This actually shows us that it will actually easier for us to understand if we already have a basic idea about a certain topic when other people tell us about that topic. Just like it will be easier to communicate if i am talking about politics with someone who knows politics rather than talking to a person who know nothing about politics. However, sometimes we will have to due with some topics that we don't know at all, therefore, to avoid any miscommunication, we should do some research about that topic well ahead.
Posted By: KokChin
Liverpool vs Manchester United
I remembered during my first tutorial lesson of human com, our group had picked a topic call "Football Game" and we presented about that topic by relating it to different types of human communication. Actually do you know that the fans are actually playing a key role too?
Last week, i watch a football game between the two most famous team in Asia, Liverpool and Manchester United. Everyone said that it was one of the most important game of the season. As a result, it was full house at the conference hall of my hostel. Everyone was there because of that particular game.
During the match itself, noises are around bcause communication occurs between the fans of both sides. When a side's team had a great scoring chance, the fans of that side will be getting exciting and axciting while the other side's fans will be getting nervous and nervous. After that shot had been taken, comments started to come out from the fans no matter the shot was success of fail. They started to discuss about the quality of that shot, how should they shot to do better and so on, especially for the fans of the same side. They will be discussing about every shot or situation of their side. When the game finally ended and Liverpool won, all the Liverpool fans congratulate each other and some even having a talk on the final conclusion of that game while the Man U fans console each other.
This actually shows us that when both sides are having the same target, it will actually make the communication between them more smooth and easier. Besides, they will also have more topics to chat and communicate.
Posted By: KokChin
Last week, i watch a football game between the two most famous team in Asia, Liverpool and Manchester United. Everyone said that it was one of the most important game of the season. As a result, it was full house at the conference hall of my hostel. Everyone was there because of that particular game.
During the match itself, noises are around bcause communication occurs between the fans of both sides. When a side's team had a great scoring chance, the fans of that side will be getting exciting and axciting while the other side's fans will be getting nervous and nervous. After that shot had been taken, comments started to come out from the fans no matter the shot was success of fail. They started to discuss about the quality of that shot, how should they shot to do better and so on, especially for the fans of the same side. They will be discussing about every shot or situation of their side. When the game finally ended and Liverpool won, all the Liverpool fans congratulate each other and some even having a talk on the final conclusion of that game while the Man U fans console each other.
This actually shows us that when both sides are having the same target, it will actually make the communication between them more smooth and easier. Besides, they will also have more topics to chat and communicate.
Posted By: KokChin
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
You don't get it?
XOXO, Phoebe here, your sources to understand 'human' around you.
I'm always 'addict' to babies. Just can't stop hugging and kissing and messing around with them every time I see them. You know how babies talk right? Its like "arr..r..." , "buuu..uuu" , "mummmm..mmm"....its just like they're having their own language, the "babies' language". I had watched a movie which I've forgot what's the name but anyhow its about baby talking. Yea, babies are having their own language and they talk to each other (in the movie). But then, when they talk like we, adult do, adult don't understand it. The understanding its just among the babies. Even the parents can't understand it. However, at the end of the movie, when the baby girl was in danger, the baby boy was trying to TELL his parents, and his parents UNDERSTAND what exactly he said.
What I'm trying to say is, you can understand if you really WANT TO communication with someone or anyone. Sometimes you even knew whats happening just looking at one's expression.
Is language good? Not really. If language use in a wrong way, it'll bring to the negative side.
Last year, there's international exchanged students in my high school. I get to know few Japanese friends. So, here comes a day, they came and ask me whats 'bodoh' (stupid). I was like .... what? who tell you this? Then I know what happened, a gang of gangster keep on yelling 'bodoh' to them. They were so pissed when they realize 'bodoh' means 'baka' in Japanese. In Asia, we just knew a few of Japanese words, such as 'baka', 'aligatogozaimasteh' (thank you) , 'shumimashi' (sorry). Of course, the one we remember the most is 'baka, rite. I do think its quiet rude and disrespect. In addition, we spoil our country reputation.
Some said : careful with your words, it might just bring down a nation.
Monday, September 15, 2008
How do we communicate with chimpanzee?
I went an animal exhibition and there i learned how to communicate with chimpanzee. Have you ever wondered how chimps communicate? Chimpanzees communicate using facial gestures, loud sounds, and sign language.They have large brains and extremely smart. When they warn each other or fight, they usually scream or make loud noises. They give out loud hoots when they fighting or when arguing over little food. When they r scared, their lips move and they start screaming. When they r relaxed their face is very calm. A chimp’s full open grin means that he or she is scared or very excited.
Chimps also have senses that alike to people. They communicate without using symbolic communication. Each chimp has their own hoot, so the other chimp can be identified. All zookeepers know this. When a chimpanzee gets attacked, they usually start screaming to tell the attacker that if you come closer, you will get hurt. Chimps good at seeing the behavior of others. They learn sign language also. Chimps communicate with us using sign language, which I think is great because then they can know that we r not goin to hurt them.
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chuan kim
Chimps also have senses that alike to people. They communicate without using symbolic communication. Each chimp has their own hoot, so the other chimp can be identified. All zookeepers know this. When a chimpanzee gets attacked, they usually start screaming to tell the attacker that if you come closer, you will get hurt. Chimps good at seeing the behavior of others. They learn sign language also. Chimps communicate with us using sign language, which I think is great because then they can know that we r not goin to hurt them.
posted by
chuan kim
How do we communicate with chimpanzee?
I went an animal exhibition and i learned how to communicate with chimpanzee. Have u ever communicate with chimpanzee? Chimpanzees communicate using facial gestures, loud sounds, and sign language. When they warn each other or fight, they usually scream or make loud noises. They give out loud hoots when they r fighting or when arguing over little food. When they r scared, their lips move and they start screaming. When they r relaxed their face is very calm. A chimp’s full open grin means that he or she is scared or very excited.
Chimps also have senses that are alike to people. They also communicate without using symbolic communication. Each chimp has their own hoot, so the other chimp can be identified. All zookeepers know this. When a chimpanzee gets attacked, they usually start screaming to tell the attacker that if you come closer, u will get hurt. Chimps r good at seeing the behavior of others. They learn sign language also. Chimps can communicate with us using sign language, which I think is great because then they can know that we r not goin to hurt them
Chimps also have senses that are alike to people. They also communicate without using symbolic communication. Each chimp has their own hoot, so the other chimp can be identified. All zookeepers know this. When a chimpanzee gets attacked, they usually start screaming to tell the attacker that if you come closer, u will get hurt. Chimps r good at seeing the behavior of others. They learn sign language also. Chimps can communicate with us using sign language, which I think is great because then they can know that we r not goin to hurt them
Sunday, September 14, 2008
traffic police and communication
as a driver who goes on the road nearly everyday to come to college, i would often encounter traffic police at certain traffic lights attempting to control the morning rush hour. but after being in the rush so many times and observing how the police work, i wonder, do they communicate with each other at all?
i find that there are plenty of road that have more traffic lights than necessary, all coming one after the other, much like the picture below, but of course with more distance in between.
and sometimes, each of these traffic lights will have one or two traffic police handling the traffic. what completely puzzles me is that when the policeman at the first traffic light lets the traffic flow, the second one doesn't follow and all the cars end up pilling at the second traffic light until there is no longer any space for any more cars from the first traffic light to pass. why isn't there some sort of coordination between the police from both traffic lights?
i'm pretty sure each of the police officers carry one of those radio walkie-talkie things...so why don't they communicate with each other to ensure a smoother traffic flow? i presume that their presence there at the traffic lights are to reduce the jams, but what is the point if at one traffic light the cars move only to stop at the other and wait just as long?
so, i hope that traffic policemen and women would actually take measures to remedy this, i.e using their communication devices. but at the same time, i'm not counting on it.
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Tham Sue Fern
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i find that there are plenty of road that have more traffic lights than necessary, all coming one after the other, much like the picture below, but of course with more distance in between.
and sometimes, each of these traffic lights will have one or two traffic police handling the traffic. what completely puzzles me is that when the policeman at the first traffic light lets the traffic flow, the second one doesn't follow and all the cars end up pilling at the second traffic light until there is no longer any space for any more cars from the first traffic light to pass. why isn't there some sort of coordination between the police from both traffic lights?
i'm pretty sure each of the police officers carry one of those radio walkie-talkie things...so why don't they communicate with each other to ensure a smoother traffic flow? i presume that their presence there at the traffic lights are to reduce the jams, but what is the point if at one traffic light the cars move only to stop at the other and wait just as long?
so, i hope that traffic policemen and women would actually take measures to remedy this, i.e using their communication devices. but at the same time, i'm not counting on it.
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Tham Sue Fern
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Saturday, September 13, 2008
Talking to somebody that u dont know or a person who is deaf
Yesterday, i went mid valley with my friends and had a movie. While, we was walking somewhere; there are few people come and ask for direction. They were whites people but dunno where they from. So they asked us, we couldn't understand it they english was totally different. We replied "I dun understand wat u saying" then they reaction was blurr HAR!!!?? After that we said it again we dun understand and YES they understand us. So, they were said it again wat they said just now. So we would try to LISTENING it properly. Finally, we know wat are they saying about and show direction to them.
From here, i know that we first of all we are hearing wat whites ppl saying about. Hence, we couldnt understand because their way of talking english is different. Later on, our mind just automatically will be make more effort to interpreted the information. Which means, we could know wat are they saying after we saying it the second time. We are listening to them wat they are saying. In HUMAN COM, i learn that listening and hearing is physically same but listening have to make an effort to listen and hearing is not. Its also hearing might to remember it the information whereas listening can.
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Chuan kim
From here, i know that we first of all we are hearing wat whites ppl saying about. Hence, we couldnt understand because their way of talking english is different. Later on, our mind just automatically will be make more effort to interpreted the information. Which means, we could know wat are they saying after we saying it the second time. We are listening to them wat they are saying. In HUMAN COM, i learn that listening and hearing is physically same but listening have to make an effort to listen and hearing is not. Its also hearing might to remember it the information whereas listening can.
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Chuan kim
Thursday, September 11, 2008
Meanings Rest in People, Not words.
XOXO Wakey wakey,People in HELP, Its Phoebe, your sources to understand 'human' around you.
Last night, during a conversation with my friend, I found something to share with you guys, of course, about human com la! Few months back ( i guess), the whole group of us (almost) went to taman megah for futsal. Its our first time to play together. Then someone, keep on asking me to be the goalkeeper for so many times. I just do it, but what I really want is to play in the field not being the goalkeeper! Then, after so many times of calling "Phoebe, go be the goalkeeper!" I was like "Why me?!" the moment the words slip from my mouth, some of them start laughing and said "because you're terror in it la!" Later on, only I realise! I kinda saw their 'eye-contact' and the words they said each time I caught the ball. Its was so obvious okay people, they're sending message to each other, which is "Phoebe is 'big' enough to cover up all the place, thats why she can get all the balls throw to her!" while yelling "well done Phoebe!". I was damn PISSED man! Start from then, I kicked the each ball with all my strength! Some people do feel my angriness, but those who make fun of me, just 'native' enough to pretend nothing happened. Remember my last post?
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
It might just kill someone
XOXO Its Phoebe here, your sources to understand 'human' around you.
Amy, was a 16 years old girl with the weight of 80 kg. She started to gain her weight when she was 12 during UPSR because of stress. She was being tease for 5 years in secondary school just because of her weight. Its all small matters for her, but things changed when she meet a guy. She felt in love to the guy and decide to confess. She knew that he wont be liking such girl but she just wanna give it a try. However, that guy rejected her and said that she's ugly, fat...all kinds of words that people usually tease her. She felt insulted. Next day, Amy's mom found her commit suicide in her bathroom.
Sean, a boy who eat any food contains cheese. So,one day,as usual, he went to a cafeteria and ordered a marble cheese cake. Later at night, he had a serious stomachache and was sent to hospital by his family. After one day of body checked, he was being told by the doctor that its food poison. Since then, he'll vomit whenever he taste,see,smell,even just talk about it in a conversation.
These 2 are real life examples of perception. Yea, PERCEPTION. Do not underestimate this word!
Just like Amy, that guy was being affect by others opinion. Others used to tease Amy, and if others know that he's dating her, he's done! That's why he reject Amy. Yet, he can choose to be polite to her. He don't have to be so cruel to her. He can reject her in a more polite way. Instead of doing that, he choose the harsh way, and it brings with a girl's life.
We tend to make judgments on others by our own. These judgments are not 100% true, but others do believe on what we said. No one realize that the judgments we made might just ruin one's life. We,as human, we have brain okay?! Its can function well! Try to think yourself and not just believe on something based on listen to some judgments made by others. You might felt that the judgment you made is true, but it might be false too.
We are influenced by what is most obvious.
When Amy die, we tend to blame her for so stupid,foolish, irresponsible for her life...but we seldom find out the reason she committed suicide! Perhaps, that guy and the others who tease her, at least equally responsible.
Things happened not just because of one's fault.
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
World without language
i cant imagine that this world without language. But yet, i still have to imagine it because it is compulsory As u imagine a world without language, every1 juz use body language, sign language and may could even dont talk to other ppl wherever ppl go. Sometimes, think that is also quite good without language. U see lar we can dont need to go school, college without talking to ur lec or friends izzit it good? its also good because the world will peace NO WAR. Dont have a language to communicate with other ppl is hard eventhough got sign or body language. Y i say so is because each of every person might have different sign or body language to show their wat they need. but they might understand some sign. For example, when a baby cries, do u know that wat does the baby need? Is baby hungry? Is baby goin to pee? Hence, we couldn't know wat baby want and we have to check it out.
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Chuan Kim
What would I do if I had 24 hours to live?
XOXO Its phoebe here, your sources to understand 'human' arround us. Few weeks back, Mr M asked me to write an essay, " What would I do if I had 24 hours to live?".
An image of my family came out immediately in my mind. Especially my mum. Why? I'll tell you why.
In my essay, I mentioned ... " I'll have few hours of conversation with my mum, because we often talk, or see each other. I'll tell her all my feelings of how painfull am I to have her to control my whole life. How confused am I to felt like I seems to hav no mother..." Sounds pathethic right? Haha... I beg some of you might feel the same way I do, Instead nowadays, parents work extremely hard for $$.
What was I trying to bring out from what I've just wrote is... Comunication is Not simple. At least between me and my mum. People used to thought that "communication" is just to talk. NO! There is communication skills when we talk.
Most people assume that communication is an aptotude that people develop with out the need for training-rather like breathing. After all, we've been swapping ideas with one another since early childhood, and there are lots of people who communicate pretty well without ever having had a class on the subject. Though a gross oversimplification as a natural ability seems accurate, it's actually a gross oversimplification.** There're some people who's always surround by so many others people. Let's say Jenny, she have tons of friends. People like to follow her, talk to her, play with her...why? Because she's FUN. She knows how to make jokes arround, how to communicate correctly with each one of her friends. BUT, not that everyone have such ability, for some people, you have to train their communication skills, and the rest just wanna be 'loner' whole life.
Most people assume that communication is an aptotude that people develop with out the need for training-rather like breathing. After all, we've been swapping ideas with one another since early childhood, and there are lots of people who communicate pretty well without ever having had a class on the subject. Though a gross oversimplification as a natural ability seems accurate, it's actually a gross oversimplification.** There're some people who's always surround by so many others people. Let's say Jenny, she have tons of friends. People like to follow her, talk to her, play with her...why? Because she's FUN. She knows how to make jokes arround, how to communicate correctly with each one of her friends. BUT, not that everyone have such ability, for some people, you have to train their communication skills, and the rest just wanna be 'loner' whole life.
In my case, I have different status in different places. In college, I'm calm,quiet,and always alone and tired (recently). In home, I'm calm, never speak (coz no one in home) , In church/outside, I'll be wild, crazy, always laugh, happy-yuppy... I choose to be the 'invisible' character in home coz there's no one in home and i wanna to be the 'no one' too. When finally I have the chance to talk with my mum, its seems weird...sounds like strangers' conversation. Maybe, we both have already used to these kind of conversation. I do believe that more communication is better than none. It brings us to each other's world. It do affect children's mind and their characteristic. Just like the picture (top) shows. Try to think, why the kid said so? Maybe, she don't feel any love from her parents? Maybe, her parents often talk but always argue? Maybe her single-parents friends are better than her. Maybe...think about it.
I choose to 'free' myself when I'm with my friends and buddies coz...I don't know. Its just I don't have to pretend or wear any mask infront of them. Its all me, the real me. Friends used to call me "joker", not that I'm evil like joker but I make a lot a lots of jokes and we laugh all the time beause of my jokes. I'm such as Jenny (top), but only when I'm with my buddies.
Believe it or not, it all starts with communication.
**N. Coupland, H. Giles, and J.M. Wiemann, eds.,"Miscommunication" and Problematic Talk (Newbury Park, CA: Sage, 1991).
Monday, September 8, 2008
Moonlight Resonance
Communication actually vary from different situation and people. Different people has different way to communicate.
Recently, I am watching a Hong Kong drama called "Moonlight Resonance". The drama talks about the conflict between a rich family who owns a business of selling mooncakes. Every character in the family has different personality and apparently the style they communicate with each other are also different. In between, there is a character in the family impressed me the most, called Heng. Heng is a female and she was the second youngest in the family. There are many unfortunate in the world and unluckily it felt on Heng as well. She was borned to dumb. However, she did not give up herself, but live strongly and happily.
Due to the fact that Heng could not speak, therefore, her style of communication is very much different from others. But, I can't see any miscommunication between Heng and her family members. All her family members are able to understand her Heng's act easily.
This actually shows us that we should try to adapt to different style of communication. As long as we try and communicate more, things will be fine just like Heng and her family members. They communicate with each other since they was born, therefore, they could all able to communicate and understand each other well. As a result, time could improve communication between one and other.
Posted By: KokChin
Recently, I am watching a Hong Kong drama called "Moonlight Resonance". The drama talks about the conflict between a rich family who owns a business of selling mooncakes. Every character in the family has different personality and apparently the style they communicate with each other are also different. In between, there is a character in the family impressed me the most, called Heng. Heng is a female and she was the second youngest in the family. There are many unfortunate in the world and unluckily it felt on Heng as well. She was borned to dumb. However, she did not give up herself, but live strongly and happily.
Due to the fact that Heng could not speak, therefore, her style of communication is very much different from others. But, I can't see any miscommunication between Heng and her family members. All her family members are able to understand her Heng's act easily.
This actually shows us that we should try to adapt to different style of communication. As long as we try and communicate more, things will be fine just like Heng and her family members. They communicate with each other since they was born, therefore, they could all able to communicate and understand each other well. As a result, time could improve communication between one and other.
Posted By: KokChin
My 1st Impression Towards Human Com
There is always a question wondering in my mind "Is the subject of Human Communication related to the field of Mass Communication?"when i was choosing my elective subject at the beginning of my second semester.
Well, after some sort of add drop stuff, I had finally comfirm that Human Communication as 1 of my elective subject. Although it is already two weeks of lectures and tutorials gone now, I still clearly remember the situation of my first day of lecture of Human Com. Firstly, our lecturer, Mr.Murali gave us a brief introduction about himself. He then ask us a question, "How many of you think that Human Com is actually related to Mass Com?" I was pleased with that question as i finally could know the answer of my question towards the subject. I remember the majority of the class included said YES. Unfortunately, the truth always goes the other way. Mr.Murali said NO. I felt a bit dejected as I chose this subject mainly because I thought that it is a path towards Mass Com. However, I remain with the subject because in my opinion, human communication is one of the key to sucess in future.
During the two weeks of lectures and tutorials,I actually realize that this subject is very much different with other subjects, as it is more practical. Especially during our tutorial classes, we don't need to do the tutorial questions like others in class, in fact, we are having group discussion and presentation, games and even watching cartoons which was the activities I experienced this 2 weeks. In my point of view, these activities actually helps to polish our communication skills. Discussion and games provided chances for us to communicate with other students in class, while we may learn some special communicating skill by watching cartoons. As a conclusion, those activities are actually more lively and useful rather than keep studying from the textbook as practices always brings improvement. So, lets communicate more!!!
Posted By: KokChin
Well, after some sort of add drop stuff, I had finally comfirm that Human Communication as 1 of my elective subject. Although it is already two weeks of lectures and tutorials gone now, I still clearly remember the situation of my first day of lecture of Human Com. Firstly, our lecturer, Mr.Murali gave us a brief introduction about himself. He then ask us a question, "How many of you think that Human Com is actually related to Mass Com?" I was pleased with that question as i finally could know the answer of my question towards the subject. I remember the majority of the class included said YES. Unfortunately, the truth always goes the other way. Mr.Murali said NO. I felt a bit dejected as I chose this subject mainly because I thought that it is a path towards Mass Com. However, I remain with the subject because in my opinion, human communication is one of the key to sucess in future.
During the two weeks of lectures and tutorials,I actually realize that this subject is very much different with other subjects, as it is more practical. Especially during our tutorial classes, we don't need to do the tutorial questions like others in class, in fact, we are having group discussion and presentation, games and even watching cartoons which was the activities I experienced this 2 weeks. In my point of view, these activities actually helps to polish our communication skills. Discussion and games provided chances for us to communicate with other students in class, while we may learn some special communicating skill by watching cartoons. As a conclusion, those activities are actually more lively and useful rather than keep studying from the textbook as practices always brings improvement. So, lets communicate more!!!
Posted By: KokChin
Sunday, September 7, 2008
Sending the wrong message across...
Communication does not always happen as we want them to. Sometimes, although it may seem that the person whom you are speaking to gets your meaning, it may actually be a different from what you intended completely.
This reminds me of a conversation i had with a friend last week. i was under the impression that she and i were on the same wavelength but as it turned out, her understanding of what i said could not be more far away from my actual message.
i remember asking her several time throughout the conversation whether she understood and got what i was trying to tell her. and she said yes every time. so we had to be on the same wavelength, right? the answer is no.
i was describing the act of standing, and she thought i was talking about acrobatics. just how did such a thing happen? i would first blame it on background noise. it was noisy, and maybe she didn't hear me correctly. i said 'spots' and she heard it as 'zones'. as both the words carry different meaning, it was this that eventually caused her to think of acrobatics.
another thing was that when the picture started becoming weird to her, she never stopped me to clarify. needless to say, when i finally realized and clarified for her, we were both just amazed at how wrong a simple conversation could become.
so, the moral of the story is, be clear with your meaning and clarify immediately when you sense something amiss. unless of course, you don't mind misinterpreting things.
Post written by
Tham Sue Fern
This reminds me of a conversation i had with a friend last week. i was under the impression that she and i were on the same wavelength but as it turned out, her understanding of what i said could not be more far away from my actual message.
i remember asking her several time throughout the conversation whether she understood and got what i was trying to tell her. and she said yes every time. so we had to be on the same wavelength, right? the answer is no.
i was describing the act of standing, and she thought i was talking about acrobatics. just how did such a thing happen? i would first blame it on background noise. it was noisy, and maybe she didn't hear me correctly. i said 'spots' and she heard it as 'zones'. as both the words carry different meaning, it was this that eventually caused her to think of acrobatics.
another thing was that when the picture started becoming weird to her, she never stopped me to clarify. needless to say, when i finally realized and clarified for her, we were both just amazed at how wrong a simple conversation could become.
so, the moral of the story is, be clear with your meaning and clarify immediately when you sense something amiss. unless of course, you don't mind misinterpreting things.
Post written by
Tham Sue Fern
Saturday, September 6, 2008
Everyone's Hero
Yesterday after I've post my 1st blog here, I rush to theatrette for my human com replacement class. BUT, the moment I open the door, I stone for a while because its dark and I was wondering aren't the replacement class suppose to be here? Then I saw Mr M sitting just beside the door and I realize its a MOVIE DAY!!!! Hurray~~!!! I was late for like 10 minutes but still catch up what its about. We're watching an animated comedy movie, "Everyone's Hero".
"Everyone's Hero" is a heartwarming comedy-adventure, telling the story of a young boy's thousand-mile journey to help Babe Ruth and the New York Yankees win the World Series. For me, its like some kind of encouragement movie. It shows that no matter who you are, the spirit, the strength, the desperation inside of you can help you to reach your dream.
I'm sure that Mr M choose this movie its for us to learn something in it, something related to human com right?
In the reality, if you talk to a baseball or a bat, its counted as "INTRAPERSONAL COMMUNICATION" am I right? Intrapersonal communication is 'communication with one self' (as what the text book wrote). You talk to the ball and then you imagine with your thoughts that the ball answering you the question. Owh, come on we do know these things are 'dead', its kinda you, yourself do the 'you ask you answer' conversation.
Throughout the movie, Yankee ( the young boy) keep on SELF-MONITORING himself. No matter, how hard the journey is, he keep on moving cause in his mind he wanted his dad to get his job back. That's the motivation which make him go through all the hardship.
At the end of the movie, there's one quote that i think its quiet nice and memorable, If I'm not mistaken its something like these
"...You can be the smallest, you can be the weakest, you can be the worst player on the field, but when people tell you you're no good, and say you should give it up, you know what you do? You just keep on swinging..."
Just like what I've said the day before this, PERSPECTIVE. Sometimes, you have to make something work by your own opinion not by others'. There's a scene that, Yankee running to the New York train to go back home but on the other way there's another train going Chicago. By right, he should choose the train to New York. But, at the end he choose to go to Chicago to gave the bat back to its owner, Babe.
Communication is not simple. Sometimes, it require trust too. Just like the trustworthy between Yankee and his parents. Stanley (Yankee's dad) suspect his son stole the bat and never listen to him when he tried to tell him the truth. That's what made Yankee going through all these hardship by his own. If Stanley willing to continue the conversation, willing to listen to his son, things like these won't be happened.
Posted by : Phoebe
"Everyone's Hero" is a heartwarming comedy-adventure, telling the story of a young boy's thousand-mile journey to help Babe Ruth and the New York Yankees win the World Series. For me, its like some kind of encouragement movie. It shows that no matter who you are, the spirit, the strength, the desperation inside of you can help you to reach your dream.
I'm sure that Mr M choose this movie its for us to learn something in it, something related to human com right?
In the reality, if you talk to a baseball or a bat, its counted as "INTRAPERSONAL COMMUNICATION" am I right? Intrapersonal communication is 'communication with one self' (as what the text book wrote). You talk to the ball and then you imagine with your thoughts that the ball answering you the question. Owh, come on we do know these things are 'dead', its kinda you, yourself do the 'you ask you answer' conversation.
Throughout the movie, Yankee ( the young boy) keep on SELF-MONITORING himself. No matter, how hard the journey is, he keep on moving cause in his mind he wanted his dad to get his job back. That's the motivation which make him go through all the hardship.
At the end of the movie, there's one quote that i think its quiet nice and memorable, If I'm not mistaken its something like these
"...You can be the smallest, you can be the weakest, you can be the worst player on the field, but when people tell you you're no good, and say you should give it up, you know what you do? You just keep on swinging..."
Just like what I've said the day before this, PERSPECTIVE. Sometimes, you have to make something work by your own opinion not by others'. There's a scene that, Yankee running to the New York train to go back home but on the other way there's another train going Chicago. By right, he should choose the train to New York. But, at the end he choose to go to Chicago to gave the bat back to its owner, Babe.
Communication is not simple. Sometimes, it require trust too. Just like the trustworthy between Yankee and his parents. Stanley (Yankee's dad) suspect his son stole the bat and never listen to him when he tried to tell him the truth. That's what made Yankee going through all these hardship by his own. If Stanley willing to continue the conversation, willing to listen to his son, things like these won't be happened.
Posted by : Phoebe
Friday, September 5, 2008
Hey There
Hey people, first of all welcome to our blog. I'm Phoebe, one of the founder of our blog. Actually, I'm suppose to talk about what's human communication but as you can seen, Kim had said some of his idea of human communication.
At the very beginning of the first semenster, I kept on wondering what's about human com? Is it something like mass com? Of course not. Then, through out the semenster, I heard people's thoughts about human com. "Its damn hard man!". "OMG, I cant believe I failed my human com!!", "Damn it! I've got to retake my human com next sem and going through the same old things again!!"...Things like these giving me such thought that human com=wasting another $1,200 and 3+ months. But still, I believe in myself and enrol for human com. What I think of what my friends had just said is persepctive. If you keep on telling youself that human com is hard and i cant pass it then the result will be as your wish. Thats why I told myself i can do it as long as I work hard. Its not that I'm too confidence to myself and say that i can get HD or something but I believe that I'm going to love this subject.
I was a bit shock when Mr. M said that there was half of the class failed human com in last sem at the 1st day. And there'll be a lot of assignments compare to the other subjects. So, whats in my mind was "should I just drop?" But as you could see, Here am I. OMG, Its 3.30 now!!! I'm havin human com class now!!! Gotta go! Catch up with you later!
Posted by : Phoebe
At the very beginning of the first semenster, I kept on wondering what's about human com? Is it something like mass com? Of course not. Then, through out the semenster, I heard people's thoughts about human com. "Its damn hard man!". "OMG, I cant believe I failed my human com!!", "Damn it! I've got to retake my human com next sem and going through the same old things again!!"...Things like these giving me such thought that human com=wasting another $1,200 and 3+ months. But still, I believe in myself and enrol for human com. What I think of what my friends had just said is persepctive. If you keep on telling youself that human com is hard and i cant pass it then the result will be as your wish. Thats why I told myself i can do it as long as I work hard. Its not that I'm too confidence to myself and say that i can get HD or something but I believe that I'm going to love this subject.
I was a bit shock when Mr. M said that there was half of the class failed human com in last sem at the 1st day. And there'll be a lot of assignments compare to the other subjects. So, whats in my mind was "should I just drop?" But as you could see, Here am I. OMG, Its 3.30 now!!! I'm havin human com class now!!! Gotta go! Catch up with you later!
Posted by : Phoebe
Thursday, September 4, 2008
What is Communication all is abt?
can any1 tell me wat is communication? Last week, my 2nd sem starts Oh My Gosh! I have to think wat should i choose for my elective subjects and im not interested to business stuff. In last minute, then only I know wat subjects that i wan and decided to take psycho and human com. When I entered human com class, our lec, Mr.Murali. He sometimes looks like lec but sometimes doesnt look alike. He called us to introduce ourself and when im introducing, i juz my name is chuan kim then from bla bla bla bla i feel weird when im asking " IS THERE ANYTHING U WAN TO KNOW?" Is that how we communciate with others?
After attended 2nd class, i only know wat is communication really all abt. But in decades year later, i dun really think that communication is human anymore and is only symbolic. This is y i say so because coming generation will no more longer to communicate with human. Like wat we studying at college might also have in our computer or either get from internet and also taking exam in the com. Employees also dun have wake up early morning to start their work and continue sleep until anytime they wan. Is just a computer can make our life change. All are stay at home facing in front of the computer and which is our next generation will understand communication is symbolic and not human. I dun think this will good from them.
POSTED BY Chuan Kim
After attended 2nd class, i only know wat is communication really all abt. But in decades year later, i dun really think that communication is human anymore and is only symbolic. This is y i say so because coming generation will no more longer to communicate with human. Like wat we studying at college might also have in our computer or either get from internet and also taking exam in the com. Employees also dun have wake up early morning to start their work and continue sleep until anytime they wan. Is just a computer can make our life change. All are stay at home facing in front of the computer and which is our next generation will understand communication is symbolic and not human. I dun think this will good from them.
POSTED BY Chuan Kim
Talking to Myself
This blog is essentially about human communication and as such, the first post I would like to make is about Intrapersonal Communication. Something I'd like to term as talking to oneself.
When i ask people if they talk to themselves, most people say "No, only crazy people do that". Some others will tell me "Sometimes, when I need to motivate myself". Fewer still will tell me "Yea, I talk to myself. In my head". Well, i actually meant if they talk to themselves out loud, but i suppose that's better than nothing.
The truth is, we all talk to ourselves. Even those who told me that only crazy people do so. Most of the time, we are not conscious of our own self talking. Have you ever had those moments when you're deciding whether to get the chocolate or vanilla flavored ice-cream and while you eyes dart from one flavor to the other, a voice in your head was saying "chocolate, or vanilla?"
Yup, that's you, talking to yourself in your head. Once you realize this, you might notice that we humans talk to ourselves all the time. In fact, i can't imagine what is it like to not talk to ourselves at all.
Self talking occurs in varying degrees. First, is the self talking that happens in our head, for example making simple everyday decisions like which ice-cream flavor to have. Next, there is the self motivating pep talk that some people usually do just before they present a speech and such. And then there's talking to yourself out loud, which is probably the rarest of all. And all of these serve a very important purpose. Self-regulation. We talk to ourselves as a means to keep ourselves in check. So technically, it helps us develop our sense of self and self-esteem. Perfectly normal.
The only time we need to worry is when self talk occurs outside acceptable situations. But this statement by itself is pretty vague. Does it mean for example, still deciding out loud which ice-cream flavor to have even when you parents are talking to you about your less than perfect exam results? About this I'll have to say that my dad walked in one me self talking(out loud) some three times already. He still asks me who I'm talking to. But for the most part, at least he doesn't think I'm crazy. So talk to yourselves people!
Post written by,
Tham Sue Fern
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Reference: http://abnormaldiversity.blogspot.com/2007_07_01_archive.html
http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=35005
When i ask people if they talk to themselves, most people say "No, only crazy people do that". Some others will tell me "Sometimes, when I need to motivate myself". Fewer still will tell me "Yea, I talk to myself. In my head". Well, i actually meant if they talk to themselves out loud, but i suppose that's better than nothing.
The truth is, we all talk to ourselves. Even those who told me that only crazy people do so. Most of the time, we are not conscious of our own self talking. Have you ever had those moments when you're deciding whether to get the chocolate or vanilla flavored ice-cream and while you eyes dart from one flavor to the other, a voice in your head was saying "chocolate, or vanilla?"
Yup, that's you, talking to yourself in your head. Once you realize this, you might notice that we humans talk to ourselves all the time. In fact, i can't imagine what is it like to not talk to ourselves at all.
Self talking occurs in varying degrees. First, is the self talking that happens in our head, for example making simple everyday decisions like which ice-cream flavor to have. Next, there is the self motivating pep talk that some people usually do just before they present a speech and such. And then there's talking to yourself out loud, which is probably the rarest of all. And all of these serve a very important purpose. Self-regulation. We talk to ourselves as a means to keep ourselves in check. So technically, it helps us develop our sense of self and self-esteem. Perfectly normal.
The only time we need to worry is when self talk occurs outside acceptable situations. But this statement by itself is pretty vague. Does it mean for example, still deciding out loud which ice-cream flavor to have even when you parents are talking to you about your less than perfect exam results? About this I'll have to say that my dad walked in one me self talking(out loud) some three times already. He still asks me who I'm talking to. But for the most part, at least he doesn't think I'm crazy. So talk to yourselves people!
Post written by,
Tham Sue Fern
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Reference: http://abnormaldiversity.blogspot.com/2007_07_01_archive.html
http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=35005
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